Something From Your Childhood Is Still Here
It lives in your hips. Your closed protected heart. Your clenched jaw. Your self-doubt. Your fear of rejection.
The part no one talks about is how your childhood doesn’t just live in 1998.
It lives in your hips. Your closed protected heart. Your clenched jaw. Your self-doubt. Your fear of rejection.
Your body absorbed everything that past left behind. And it’s been quietly running the show ever since.
It Wasn’t Just One Big Moment
Maybe it was…
Your parents’ divorce.
When your best friend moved away.
When your crush chose someone else.
When your mom made that comment about your body.
It’s moments that hurt.
The ones you tell yourself you should be over by now.
But your body didn’t just forget.
It holds it.
And it doesn’t just stay in the past.
It shows up in your life now.
Where It Shows Up Now
It shows up when you sit down to post something and suddenly your mind goes blank.
Knowing what you want in your life or business but not being able to move toward it.
Overthinking decisions that should feel simple.
Start something… and then stop halfway through.
The brilliant marketing idea that bubbles up in the meeting but you can’t speak up.
This isn’t a mind problem
This doesn’t mean you need to analyze your patterns, journal harder or watch endless videos on procrastination.
Because it’s not happening in your mind.
It’s happening in your body.
What your body learned
A child who witnessed her parents marriage fall apart often has an unsteady inner foundation. Her whole world was rocked, the rug was pulled from under her.
So when she has this genius business idea, then starts working on it and stops, it’s because the emotional wound in the body is saying “Good things never last so why keep going.”
The body pulls the brake and you stop moving forward.
She thinks the problem is her mindset or procrastination but it’s not.
Those moments didn’t just live in your thoughts.
They were felt.
And anything that was felt lives in the body until it’s processed and moved.
And if she stays at the level of the mind, she’ll continue to repeat the same patterns in love, life and business.
Why You Still Feel Stuck
Which means…you can think differently, journal about it, talk about it and still feel stuck.
Because your body hasn’t had a chance to release it yet.
And when it does?
Things changes.
What Happens When It Releases
You don’t sit there overthinking what to say.
You speak.
You don’t freeze when it’s time to show up.
You follow through.
You don’t feel like you’re constantly fighting yourself.
There’s compassion and space.
Space to breathe.
Space to feel.
Space to actually move forward.
The Work
This is the work I guide women through.
By working with the body.
Through breath.
Through movement.
Through allowing what’s been held… to finally move.
If you’ve been trying to think your way through this and nothing is changing… this is where we do it differently.
I have a few spots open this week.
We’ll look at what your body has been holding, what’s actually keeping you stuck, and what it would look like to start releasing it.
If you want support, we can talk about that too.
Talk soon.
Much love,
Essence
