I Spent Months Avoiding This Boy...
The story of a boy who wanted to date me and the lesson I didn't understand until decades later.
He would tell my friends he wanted my number, and everything in me was a no.
When I was 14 and a freshman in high school, there was this senior who wanted to date me.
And when I tell you I avoided this boy at all costs, I mean it.
If I saw him coming, I’d turn around and go the other way.
I’d ignore him.
And act like I didn’t hear him calling my name.
But one freezing-cold day, I was walking home from school when he pulled up next to me in his car and asked if I wanted a ride.
I said, “No, thanks.”
But he kept driving slowly next to me.
And y’all...
It was cold.
So I finally got in. Smh…
And from that point on, I was completely head over heels.
Skipping class, kissing in the hallway, and cheering him on at his basketball games.
Eating meals with his family.
It was everything I dreamed of for a few months.
Before I knew it...things fell apart.
Someone lied on me and he believed them over me.
We broke up.
Everyone in school knew, there were rumors, whispering, and finger-pointing.
He broke my heart, humiliated me and the whole thing wasn’t worth it.
If I could go back and say one thing to that little 14-year-old girl, it would be:
Baby, if everything in you is telling you to avoid him, avoid him.
Trust yourself.
Trust your gut.
Trust your intuition.
You don’t need any more evidence than that tight feeling in your body.
You don’t need to give him a chance.
Don’t need to talk yourself out of what you already know.
And no matter how cold it is, you’ve been walking home in the freezing cold Michigan winters for years…You can make it another twenty minutes.
LOL!
Looking back, what I can clearly see now is that self-trust has always been one of my biggest spiritual lessons.
Much love,
Essence
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