How to Turn Your Pain Into Purpose (Part 4): Purpose vs Calling
It’s the way you move, relate, see, and choose once you’re no longer living from unprocessed pain.
Over the last few emails, we’ve been unraveling what we’ve been taught about purpose.
Your pain needs to become your profession or sacred mission
Your healing needs to turn into a role
Your purpose is something you have to do in the world
And we replaced the doing with being.
Meaning, purpose is not what you do.
It’s who you become after your pain is felt, integrated, and alchemized.
Purpose lives inside you.
It’s the way you move, relate, see, and choose once you’re no longer living from unprocessed pain.
Calling is different.
Your calling is not who you are…it’s what life asks you to express through who you’ve become.
Your calling becomes clearer after healing, not before.
So the old model taught us:
Heal → find your purpose → start doing that work in the world.
But the new paradigm of turning your pain into purpose looks like this:
Heal the pain → become the purpose → then hear and courageously follow your soul’s calling.
I recently shared this concept with clients and a few friends and it brought them relief.
But for many women, I’m sure it will bring up a deeper question:
If purpose is who I am, and I’ve already done so much healing, why is it still so hard to show up for the work I know that I’m here to do?
After years of learning this the hard way, here’s the answer to that question.
There’s no quick fix.
Clarity by itself doesn’t dissolve fear.
Insight alone doesn’t regulate your nervous system.
Knowing your truth and your mission doesn’t automatically make your body feel safe enough to live it and do it.
Very often, the reason you still hesitate…the reason you still freeze…
the reason your voice tightens or your energy collapses…
is not because you’re unclear.
It’s because at some point your body (and inner child) learned that being visible, expressed, or fully yourself wasn’t safe.
And this is where embodiment matters.
This is the phase I work in.
I support purpose-driven women who already know they’re here to create, lead, share, or contribute but feel their body bracing, freezing and holding them back when it’s time to show up.
We don’t white-knuckle it, “push through” or ramp up false confidence.
We work with feminine energy, the nervous system, the body, and the places where old protection patterns are still running the show.
If this series resonated with you…
And you feel like you know who you are and what you’re called toward, but something in your body hasn’t caught up yet…
I’m inviting you to a Somatic Soul Consultation.
This is a space to feel what’s actually happening in your body and explore together what would help you move forward so your next step feels aligned, not forced.
You don’t need to wait until the fear disappears.
You need support that meets you where you are.
Book your consultation here:
I look forward to guiding you.
Much love,
Essence
P.S.
Whatever you choose, I hope this series helped you embrace the idea that your purpose is already alive in you.
Sometimes, it just needs safety to come through.
If you have any questions about the series, just hit reply.