How to Come Back To Your Body When You're Always in Your Head- Day 2
There are levels to body-safety, and wherever you are on that spectrum… it’s okay.
Hey Friend,
Today we’re talking about something that many busy women struggle with at some point:
living entirely in your head
…thinking, analyzing, overthinking
…planning, replaying, bracing for the worst
…stuck in loops you can’t think your way out of.
And when you’re always in your head, being in your body can feel foreign… or even unsafe.
So I want to say this clearly:
Not feeling safe in your body is a real thing!
Maybe you’ve felt it but just haven’t been able to name it…
• you can’t relax even when nothing is wrong
• you’re always bracing for the other shoe to drop
• feeling your feelings feels scary or too overwhelming
• stillness makes you anxious
• your body feels tense, buzzy, shut down, or numb
• you avoid slowing down because you fear something will surface
That’s what “unsafe in the body” really looks like.
It’s your body saying,
“I don’t feel held. I don’t feel protected. I don’t feel like home… yet.”
Your body may feel unsafe because:
•it’s holding trauma
• it’s been ignored or overridden for years
• you were taught to value intellect over intuition
• it feels unfamiliar after years of survival mode
There are levels to body-safety, and wherever you are on that spectrum… it’s okay.
And the goal here isn’t to suddenly “love your body.”
Not yet.
One of the most important steps on the journey is that your body becomes an ally.
Not an enemy.
Not a stranger.
Just… someone you’re learning to trust again.
And sometimes that starts with acknowledging the smallest things:
• “My body keeps my heart beating.”
• “My body digests my food.”
• “My body lets me hug my family.”
Just tiny reminders that your body has been on your side more than you know.
I remember when I first started doing yoga, back when I was a server. I’d work 3–4 long shifts in a row and by the end of the week, I was so in my head, anxious, irritable, and disconnected. My ego was completely running the show.
Then my days off would come, and I’d go to yoga, walk by the river, jog a little… just move and breathe. And every time, it took me about two days to drop out of my head and back into my body. Two days to feel like myself and for my essence to radiate again. And eventually, the time got shorter. My body started to respond quicker.
That’s when I realized something I’ve never forgotten:
Being in your body is a practice; it can be learned; it’s not just a natural default.
Just like anything else, you get better at it with practice.
You just return to it, again and again.
And that’s what today’s practice is about:
Learning to feel safe enough in your body to come home to her again, even if it’s just for 3 minutes.
Because your essence can’t reawaken in your mind.
It reawakens in your body.
Day 2 After-Work Somatic Practice
Find a quiet moment, even just a minute or two.
Sit or stand somewhere that feels comfortable.
1. Place one hand on each cheek.
Feel the warmth of your hands on your face.
Take a slow breath in… and out.
Say softly (in your mind or out loud):
“I feel my hands on my face…
and I am here with you.”
Take two slow breaths here.
2. Bring both hands to your heart.
Let your shoulders drop.
Let your chest soften.
Take a slow breath in… and out.
Say:
“I feel my hands on my heart…
and I am here with you.”
Two slow breaths.
3. Cross your arms gently, hands resting on your upper arms, like a soft self-embrace.
Take a slow breath in… and out.
Say:
“I feel my hands on my arms…
and I am here with you.”
Two slow breaths.
4. Now place one hand on your heart and the other on your belly.
Take a slow breath in… and out.
Say:
“One hand on my heart… one hand on my belly…
and I am here with you.”
Two slow breaths.
Let the practice be that simple.
Just noticing touch.
Letting your body feel that you’re with her.
Letting yourself come home… one small moment at a time.
In case some of you need to catch up, we’ll take an integration day.
Which practice will you try again, day 1 or day 2?
Talk to you on Friday for Day 3.
Much love,
Essence
