How Deep Healing Happens in Months, Not Years-Day 3
So no… healing doesn’t have to take a lifetime. It doesn’t have to drag on for years.
People often say “Time heals all wounds.”
But that’s not true with emotional wounds. If it were true, so many of us wouldn’t still be carrying things that happened years ago, even decades ago.
Time passing doesn’t heal you.
Time invested does.
If you want real freedom…freedom from old pain, heartbreak, fear, or childhood wounds, you have to prioritize your healing. You must be willing to gently look at the things you’ve been avoiding and offer them love & attention instead of avoidance.
Then be willing to go deep.
For instance, many women say they want to “love themselves,” but they stay on the surface.
They buy the workbook, repeat affirmations, take the bubble baths and all of that can feel soothing for a moment.
But if you never ask, “What made me stop loving myself in the first place?” then the shift can’t penetrate as deeply as it needs. You stay wide, and when you stay wide, the healing stretches out for years.
Healing begins to happen faster when you narrow in and get specific.
Meaning…when you finally go there and get honest about the people, moments, or experiences that caused you to turn against yourself.
When I wanted to heal my self-love wounds, I had to tell the truth about where they came from. I had to go back to my unavailable dad, not physically, but emotionally and sit with what my younger self felt.
She developed a belief that if her dad didn’t love her then that must mean she’s unlovable; that I’m unlovable.
Adult me wasn’t really angry with my dad but I still had to actually feel into that wound, breathe through it, cry through it, and offer my younger self compassion that I never got at the time.
It was hard work, but it didn’t take forever because it was real, specific and deep. And what I couldn’t get to on my own, I took to my coach.
I carried that pain for over 30 years, and once I focused in on it, I transformed it in just a few months. Not only did my self-love grow, but so did my self-worth and self-respect.
And soon after, I finally attracted the kind of love that matched that healing.
So no… healing doesn’t have to take a lifetime.
It doesn’t have to drag on for years.
It just needs you, your presence, your honesty, your willingness to turn toward the tender parts of your past instead of away from it.
When you do that, your healing can shift faster than you ever imagined.
Day 3 After-Work Somatic Practice
1. Place both hands on your heart.
If you can, let your hands touch your skin so you can really feel your own warmth.
2. Close your eyes and take a few slow, grounding breaths.
Let your shoulders drop. Let your jaw soften. Let your body settle.
3. Say this prayer gently, either out loud or in your heart:
“God or Divine Feminine Soul,
give me the courage to look at my wounds
and the parts of me that feel broken,
and the strength to heal my heart, my mind, my body, and my spirit.
And so it is.”
4. If it feels good, repeat the prayer three more times.
Let it land in your heart instead of your mind.
5. Finish with three deep breaths.
Feel your body soften just a little more each time.
You’re doing great. Be gentle with yourself tonight.
I’ll meet you tomorrow for Day 4.
Much love, Essence.
