Fear's favorite way to hold you back: Self-Healing Sunday
Before you talk yourself out of it again…Read this
I was having a conversation with a community member and one of the questions she had was around knowing if she’s truly not ready or if it’s fear.
I think one of fears favorite lines is “I’m not ready yet.”
You have a plan to start your podcast, youtube channel, ask for a raise and the here comes the whisper, “I’m not ready yet.”
And you believe it.
And honestly, sometimes it sounds really convincing.
“I need more time.”
“I need to learn a little more first.”
“I should wait until I feel more confident.”
“Maybe later.”
But a lot of the time, it’s not really about readiness.
It’s the fear of being seen.
The fear of rejection.
The fear of putting your heart into something and not getting the response you hoped for.
And instead of saying that directly, the mind turns it into overthinking, procrastinating, researching, hesitating, doubting yourself.
Before you know months have passed and you’re feeling behind.
I can see now there were so many moments in my own life where I thought fear was protecting me, but really it was just keeping me small.
Keeping me quiet and keeping me from fully showing up for the things I knew deep down I wanted.
And I think one of the hardest realizations is seeing how often we reject ourselves first.
We talk ourselves out of the thing before life even has the chance to respond to it.
We convince ourselves not to try.
And not to trust what we feel.
But in your heart of hearts you know what you’re being called to do or be.
That’s what you believe and trust, not the voice of fear.
Something to sit with today:
What keeps pulling at you lately?
What keeps whispering to you underneath all the noise and distractions and practical reasons and excuses?
And what would happen if you stopped waiting to feel fully ready before you started listening to yourself?
Your answer does’’t have to be huge.
Just tell the truth.
Much love,
Essence
P.S.
I want to make more Self-Healing Sundays aligned to what you all are actually going through. You can share here what you’re going through and have questions about here on the Community form.
P.P.S
If you feel like fear keeps talking you out of the life you know you want, this is a huge part of the work I do with women inside the Feminine Return Blueprint Session.