In today’s video we’re continuing our talks about emotional blocks & patterns that may keep you off your path and get in the way of your purpose.

If you’ve spent more moments than you can count feeling like something is wrong with you…

Like you’re broken.
Like you’re not enough.
Like somehow everyone else got something you didn’t.

This is for you.

Because I know what that feels like.

What it looks like…

Sometimes it looks like becoming whoever you need to be depending on who you’re around.

At work, you’re one version.
With friends, you’re another.

And when you’re alone you’re not even sure who you really are.

Or maybe it shows up as feeling like you don’t really matter.

So even when you’re hurting, you minimize it.
You don’t say anything.
You just keep showing up for everyone else.

Or you hold yourself back because a part of you is afraid of being too much.

And underneath all of that…

There’s this quiet feeling that maybe you’re just different.

A little more damaged than everyone else.

That was me too.

I used to feel like I was “damaged goods.”

I talk more about that in this video.

I built my identity around that feeling.

I chose relationships from that place.
I showed up in the world from that place.
I kept reinforcing something that was never actually me.

That’s what I now call a “felt identity.”

In this video, I walk you through how these patterns form, how they get stored in the body, and why they keep showing up in your life… even when you’re doing all the “right” things.

And I guide you through a short gentle somatic practice you can do at your desk to start shifting this at the root not just in your mind, but in your body.

If you’ve been trying to think your way out of this, fix yourself or finally arrive at a place where you feel “enough”, this is a must watch.

Take your time with this.

And if you do watch, I’d really love to hear what resonated with you.

Much love,

Essence

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It lives in your hips. Your closed protected heart. Your clenched jaw. Your self-doubt. Your fear of rejection.

Your body absorbed everything that past left behind. And it’s been quietly running the show ever since.

It Wasn’t Just One Big Moment

Maybe it was…

Your parents’ divorce.
When your best friend moved away.
When your crush chose someone else.
When your mom made that comment about your body.

It’s moments that hurt.

The ones you tell yourself you should be over by now.

But your body didn’t just forget.

It holds it.

And it doesn’t just stay in the past.

It shows up in your life now.

Where It Shows Up Now

It shows up when you sit down to post something and suddenly your mind goes blank.

Knowing what you want in your life or business but not being able to move toward it.

Overthinking decisions that should feel simple.

Start something… and then stop halfway through.

The brilliant marketing idea that bubbles up in the meeting but you can’t speak up.

This isn’t a mind problem

This doesn’t mean you need to analyze your patterns, journal harder or watch endless videos on procrastination.

Because it’s not happening in your mind.

It’s happening in your body.

What your body learned

A child who witnessed her parents marriage fall apart often has an unsteady inner foundation. Her whole world was rocked, the rug was pulled from under her.

So when she has this genius business idea, then starts working on it and stops, it’s because the emotional wound in the body is saying “Good things never last so why keep going.”

The body pulls the brake and you stop moving forward.

She thinks the problem is her mindset or procrastination but it’s not.

Those moments didn’t just live in your thoughts.

They were felt.

And anything that was felt lives in the body until it’s processed and moved.

And if she stays at the level of the mind, she’ll continue to repeat the same patterns in love, life and business.

Why You Still Feel Stuck

Which means…you can think differently, journal about it, talk about it and still feel stuck.

Because your body hasn’t had a chance to release it yet.

And when it does?

Things changes.

What Happens When It Releases

You don’t sit there overthinking what to say.

You speak.

You don’t freeze when it’s time to show up.

You follow through.

You don’t feel like you’re constantly fighting yourself.

There’s compassion and space.

Space to breathe.
Space to feel.
Space to actually move forward.

The Work

This is the work I guide women through.

By working with the body.

Through breath.
Through movement.
Through allowing what’s been held… to finally move.

If you’ve been trying to think your way through this and nothing is changing… this is where we do it differently.

I have a few spots open this week.

We’ll look at what your body has been holding, what’s actually keeping you stuck, and what it would look like to start releasing it.

If you want support, we can talk about that too.

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Talk soon.

Much love,

Essence

In the last message we spoke about feeling anxious even when nothing is wrong (read it here.)

Today I wanted to share prayer tapping practice because prayer softens the body, brings you into the present moment and drops you into surrender.

You tap so that as you’re speaking or listening to my words you are connected to your body and the body is releasing.

BTW…I’ll send an email soon about the next live Sunday Self-Healing Attunement.

Prepare:

Close your eyes, take 3 deep breaths.

Start tapping on your heart with your fingertips.

Stay there or tap all over your body, whatever feels really calming and healing to you.

Let’s pray…

God, I’m anxious and I can’t relax.

It’s hard for me to focus on future, my purpose and my path.

It’s hard for me to be still.
It’s hard for my mind to be silent.
It’s hard for me not to worry.

And I have been like this for a long time.
And I’m tired of being like this.
I’m tired of feeling like this.

I want to be at ease in my body.
I want to have peace in my mind.
I just want to relax.

I just want to be able to be present.
To be in the moment.
And not be worried about the future
or thinking about how to change the past.

I just want to be here.

Maybe my anxiety has helped me in the past.
Maybe it helped me when I was growing up.
Maybe I needed to be on alert sometimes.
Maybe I needed to plan ahead.
Maybe I needed to be on the lookout.
Maybe I needed to be obsessed with being the best.
Maybe I needed to be the one to do it perfectly.

Maybe all that served me in the past.
It kept me safe.

But I don’t need that anymore to keep me safe.

Because the truth is, I’m an adult now.
And I am safe.

And yes, I’ve been through a lot of things
that I never want to go through again.

But if they came back around,
I would know what to do.

Because I’m resilient.
And I’m resourceful.

And maybe I don’t have to live on the edge.

If I trust that even when the unexpected happens,
I’ll find a way.
And I’ll be okay.

Maybe if I could truly believe that,
I can rest.
And I can relax.

I don’t have to plan and prepare
and worry
and stay 10 steps ahead.

Because I can just trust that whatever life throws my way,
I’ll show up for it.

And I can just live my life in peace,
go after my goals in peace,

Live my purpose in peace,
experience love in peace,
and just move forward from peace.

That is my deepest wish, God.

To just move and live and breathe from peace.

Show me.
Show me the way, God.

Show me what needs to be released
so that I can be in peace.

I am ready.
I am open.
I am listening.

And so it is.

Take a deep breath.

Just take a moment to notice how you feel in your body.

What’s present for you?

How do you feel?

What do you notice?

Whatever is there, is okay.

There’s no right way to be or to feel.

Reflection:

1. Who would I be without the constant hum of fear, anxiety and worry?

2. What needs to be healed & released to become her?

Happy journaling!

I’d love for you to hit reply and share your experience.

Much love,

Essence.

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Today’s Video focuses on Why You Feel Anxious Even When Nothing is Wrong

Watch it here or read the transcript below.

If you feel anxious most of the time, even when nothing is wrong, you’re in the right place.

Today I’m going to break down what this looks like when you’re actually in it, what most people think the problem is, what’s really driving it, and then I’ll guide you through a short somatic practice to begin the shift.

I am Essence, your Feminine Energy Mentor here at The Self-Healing School. I help purpose-driven women release emotional blocks so you can hear your inner voice, your intuition, and show up and do the work you’re here to do.

What This Pattern Looks Like

Feeling anxious even when nothing is wrong might look like:

• Waking up and your heart is already racing before the day even starts

• Your mind running through everything you have to do

• Starting the day from a rushed, hurried place

• Life being stable, but there’s still this constant hum of worry in the background

• Finding it hard to relax even when you’re hanging out with friends

• Feeling on edge even when you’re on the couch watching Netflix

• Something in you won’t let you fully sink into the couch and just be in Virgin River or Bridgerton

Most people think, “Oh, I just have anxiety,” or “I’m just a worrier.”
One of my clients told me, “I feel like anxiety is who I am.”

So I want to share what I tell my clients when this comes up.

Anxiety as a Learned Response

I want to preface this by saying I tend to work with neurotypical brains, and I honor what neurodivergent brains go through. They are different. I’m speaking to neurotypical patterns here, although one of my clients who really valued this perspective is neurodivergent.

When I think of a neurotypical human, and I take it all the way back to a baby, in my spiritual mind I’m like: babies aren’t born naturally anxious. They’re not born naturally worrying.

So I see this as a learned response. As a child, your nervous system learned that you had to be hypervigilant. You had to be on alert.

Imagine a little kid coming home from school who never knows what the home environment is going to be like. Are Mom and Dad arguing? Is it peaceful? Is Mom going to be yelling because she had a bad day at work?

This kid may have had the greatest time at school, but on the way home the anxiety starts to kick up. It feels like this humming. And now the child is thinking:

Do I go straight to my room?
Sometimes Mom doesn’t like that.
But sometimes when I go into the kitchen and share my day, she starts yelling at me.
I just don’t know how to be.

If that’s the day-to-day from childhood through high school or college, your nervous system gets trained to be in a constant state of anxiety. Always looking out. Always on edge. Because you never know what to expect.

Your body learns it’s not safe.
I don’t know if I’m going to be embraced.
I don’t know if I’m going to be yelled at.

So your body goes straight into protection mode. It assumes, “I’m not going to be safe,” even if it ends up being a great day.

Most people think, “When I get older and I’m out of that environment, I’ll be calm.” But that’s not how the body works. Once it’s been trained, you have to retrain it.

How This Shows Up Now

You might be hypervigilant at work, always looking out for the next thing.
In your business, you might worry if you gave your client enough value.
You can never fully be at ease with who you are and how you’re showing up.

When you’re living in a constant state of anxiety, it’s really hard to be on your path. It’s hard to be who you’re meant to be because you’re always worried about how people are receiving you. Even if it’s not conscious, your body is reacting.

How We Begin to Shift It

The work is to teach your body that you’re safe now.

With my clients, we do breathwork and movement to start shifting that energy out of the body. I once told a client to imagine every anxious moment like magnets. Magnets on magnets on magnets. And magnets attract more magnets.

So if you’re full of anxiety magnets, you keep attracting more moments to be anxious about.

When you move and breathe, it’s like those magnets start falling off. And the more that fall off, the more your body becomes a magnet for different experiences.

We might also do inner child work, going back into specific moments and feeling and moving through the emotions. We might do journaling. These are all things you can do to start shaking off some of that anxious energy.

Another visual is a piggy bank. If it’s stuffed full of anxiety pennies, there’s no room for calm quarters. It’s hard to feel calm and present when you’re already stuffed full of anxiety, worry, and fear.

We need to release some of that so there’s space to surrender and just be in your body. To sit on the couch, eat your popcorn, and watch Bridgerton without part of you being on edge.

A Simple Practice You Can Use Right Now

When I’m feeling anxious or really in my head, I start tapping. I tap all over, sometimes down to my feet, and I say:

I’m choosing to be in my body.
I’m choosing to be here in this moment.
I’m leaving my head and coming into my body.
I am safe here.
It is safe to be inside myself.

Then I rest my hands, take a deep breath in, and exhale.
I sit and breathe and let my body settle.

You Are Not Stuck With Chronic Anxiety

One of my clients was on anxiety medication and having panic attacks two to three times a week. After doing this work, she talked to her therapist and is now off her anxiety meds.

She can fully feel and be in the moment and choose a different feeling instead of letting anxiety be the first and only response.

There is a way out.

It might take some work.

And if you need help with that, I’m here, click here and we can talk about it.

It was lovely speaking with you and I’ll talk to you soon!

Much love,

Essence

A space to slow down, soften, and come back to yourself.

We’ll be connecting with the goddess of independence, sensuality, and self-trust; as a way to gently release whatever has been weighing on your shoulders and reconnect with your feminine energy.

This is a moment to breathe, feel, and allow your energy to shift.

This is for you if you’ve been craving to feel lighter, more in your body, and a little more like yourself again.

Come dressed in whatever makes you feel soft, feminine, and like you.

What to expect:

Sensual movement & breathwork ( soft, feminine, slow connecting with our inner world)

Time: 6:15 pm est

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Time: 6:15 pm est

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Much love, Essence.

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I believe that our soul came here to experience all that this life and Earth has to offer. The good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful. All of it shapes us into who we came here to become.

You subtract one trauma, one heartbreak, or one day laughing at the park with your friends, and you change the recipe that is you.

But what I also believe to be true is that the heavy things, the painful things, and the trauma, although they help shape us, we are not meant to carry the weight of them forever.

There comes a time when your soul nudges you to heal it and release it.

And we all know when our soul is nudging us to let go

Maybe that was 10 years ago when you got that first nudge. Maybe it was two months ago.

But if you’re still holding onto it today, you’re carrying pain longer than you were meant to.

And it doesn’t just sit there quietly.

It shows up when you try to move forward.

It looks like knowing you want to start something, share your voice, or go after what’s on your heart… and every time you sit down to do it, something in you hesitates or shuts down.

Or it looks like opening your heart to someone, getting hurt, and now even when something good is in front of you, part of you pulls back before you can fully let yourself be there.

That’s what it looks like to carry something longer than you were meant to.

And your soul will keep nudging you, not to punish you, but because it knows there’s more for you on the other side of letting it go.

This is the work that I do, join me this Sunday evening for Self-Healing Sunday.

Come breathe and release in a way that feels light & calming.

Much love,

Essence

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The Journey…

3 free Sunday live sessions. Starting March 29^th.

This is a free weekly live experience for the woman who knows there’s a next level waiting for her.

A calling. A new version of herself. Something she can feel… but hasn’t fully stepped into yet.

Each Sunday, we come together, drop into the body, and gently clear one of your energy centers.

Releasing what’s been sitting there.
Opening what’s been closed.
Making a little more room for her.

The version of you that’s been trying to come through.

You’ll leave each session feeling more present, more alive, more in your body… and a little closer to the woman you’ve been becoming.

Think of it as a space to come back to yourself each week.
To soften. To release. To reconnect.
In a way that feels sensual, spacious, and feminine.

This is for you if:

You keep feeling called to share your gifts… to guide, teach, lead, or serve in a way that feels meant for you. But every time you try to move toward it, something in you stops… and you can’t fully explain why.

You have a vision for your life; a business, a body of work, a way of showing up that keeps coming back, no matter how many times you set it aside. And part of you is like… why can’t I just follow it?

You’ve been trying to start your health journey or show up for yourself… and you fall off after a few days. Or you keep saying you’re done putting yourself last… and somehow life gets in the way again. And you’re just tired of that cycle.

You know you’re meant for more at work; the leadership, the role, the seat at the table and you’re tired of shrinking in rooms where you belong.

What to expect:

We slow down and bring in gentle movement and breath, so you can get out of your head and actually feel yourself again.

So you can hear what’s been there underneath the noise… underneath the overthinking… underneath all the ways you’ve been holding yourself back.

Each time we gather, we drop into the body and open a little more space.

You might notice that you feel lighter and have a sense of clarity that wasn’t there before.

And along with that, you start to feel…

More connected.
More certain.
More willing to move.

Because there’s finally enough space in your body for her, your next level to come forward.

What’s needed:

No experience needed. You can join from your couch, your chair, or your yoga mat.

All you need is stretchy clothes that make you feminine,

a pen and paper, and an open heart.

Come as you are. Your body will take care of the rest.

When: Sunday evenings starting March 29th for 3 weeks.

Time: 6:15 pm est

Where: My Substack Blog called “The Self-Healing School”

How to join:

Drop your email below and you’ll be added to my blog community space.

Each Sunday, the session will be emailed an alert when I go live and you just click that link.

No need to keep signing up.

Once you’re in, you’ll receive all 3 Sunday alerts.

Maybe it’s for you. Maybe you’ll know by the end.

Today is the last day to join The Soul Attunement Reset at 30 % off.

This is the program where we use joy and feminine practices to release what your body has been holding so you can hear your soul clearly again and finally move toward the more you’ve been feeling called to.

· This is for you if you’ve been carrying a dream or a calling for so long you’ve started calling it silly. But the idea comes back every few months. The one you wrote down in your notes app at 2am and haven’t opened since. The one you told one person about and immediately wished you hadn’t.

· This is for you if there’s a version of you that keeps showing up in your imagination. She’s more confident. More grounded. More herself. Maybe she’s finally consistent with her health journey. Maybe she’s stopped being so hard on herself. Maybe she’s the one who stops shrinking at work, speaks up, and steps into leadership… She feels close. But something keeps you from fully crossing over into her.

· This is for you if you know something more is meant for you and you can feel it somewhere deep in your body. But every time you sit down to actually move toward it you end up reorganizing your desk, texting someone back, doing anything but the thing. And you don’t know why. You just know you couldn’t make yourself do it. Again.

· This is for you if you’ve done the work. The journaling. The therapy. The courses. The mindset shifts. And something still hasn’t moved. You can feel the weight but you can’t reach it from inside your head.

This is for you if some part of you read that and whispered, yes. That’s me.

Because here’s what I want you to know.

That pull you feel toward something more that’s real.

That desire that keeps rising no matter how many times you push it down, that’s your soul.

That version of you that you keep catching glimpses of in your daydreams, she’s not a fantasy.

She’s who you’re becoming.

The Attuned Woman. The one who lives in her body. Who trusts herself. Who hears her soul and smiles and says yes. Who moves toward her calling not by force but by following the pull.

She’s already inside you.

The 30 Day Soul Attunement Reset is just how we bring her forward.

Three sessions over 30 days.

Heart rituals between sessions.

Monday and Thursday office hours, so you’re never navigating what’s shifting alone.

This isn’t trauma therapy, it’s joyful, feminine, body-based work that goes where the weight actually lives.

Again, today is the last day for 30% off.

If you’re ready to grab your 30 Day Reset, click here.

If it feels safer to start with the Soul Attunement Single Session, click here.

If you want to talk first schedule a 15 min chat for this week and I’ll save the birthday special for you, click here.

Either way, if something in you is saying yes right now, don’t talk yourself out of it.

That’s her. That’s the pull.

Follow it.

With love, Essence

Yesterday we talked about the Attuned Woman.

The voices that whispers to you in the shower and as you fall asleep. The one behind the idea that keeps coming back. The calling that won’t leave you alone no matter how many times you tell it not yet.

Today for Self-Healing Sunday we’re going to call her forward together.

This is my prayer to God to connect more deeply to the Attuned Woman in me.

I hope this prayer resonates with you as well.

Take a breath and read slowly. (or press play)

A Prayer For The Attuned Woman

Mother. Father. God.

I know that something wants to come through me. Something wants to be birthed. I can feel it. I can’t quite grasp it yet and honestly — that’s been really frustrating. But I’m here. And I’m asking for your help.

I want to deliver this calling. This vision. Help me work through the fear that keeps getting in the way.

Help me work through the doubt. I am so tired of second guessing myself. I just want to trust what’s coming through. I want everything to feel clear.

Help me to be so deeply connected to you and to my own body that there’s never any doubt. I want it to feel like you and my soul are right here with me, whispering in my ear.

Just like I would never doubt my mother’s voice speaking to me, I don’t want to doubt the inner voice speaking to me anymore.

I want to say yes to the desires of my heart. Yes to the calling. I want to be a role model. I want to lead. I want to stare fear right in the face and walk right past it.

I want to hear my soul and smile and say yes.

I want to grab my purpose by its hand and walk forward with it into being.

I am ready to be grounded. Soft. Powerful. Present.

I am ready to be attuned to you, to my soul, to my body.

No more pushing. Just presence. Just trusting. Just being here in my body. Home with myself. Loving myself.

I am ready.

Amen. Sat Nam and so it is.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

Today is the last day for 30% off of the Soul Attunement Reset.

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She’s been whispering to you for a while now. In the shower. As you fall asleep.

In the tears that come out of nowhere.

And every time you feel her, you wonder if you’re making it up.

You’re not.

• It’s the thought that comes through so clearly while you’re brushing your hair, but by the time you grab your purse and head out the door, you’ve already talked yourself out of it again.

• It’s the person you stalk online, watching video after video, thinking, I have something to say too.

• It’s the idea that keeps coming back, no matter how many times you push it away.

• It’s the instant tears that bubble up when someone else steps bravely on their path.

• It’s the dream you’ve been calling silly for so long, you almost believe that’s what it is.

• It’s the way your whole body leans forward when someone talks about purpose and calling like something deep inside you is finally being spoken to.

Those moments aren’t random.

It’s her.

The version of you that has always known.

The one who has been waiting underneath everything you’ve been carrying.

She’s nudging you and calling you forward. And she refuses to go away, no matter how busy you stay or how many times you tell her not yet.

You don’t become her by going into your mind and trying to figure things out. If that was the case, you would already be her.
You awaken her through coming home to your body.

Here’s the part most people don’t realize…

If this were a mindset problem, you would have already moved.

You’ve had the clarity and the moments where it felt obvious what you wanted.

And still…you didn’t move.

Or you started… and something in you pulled back.

That’s not a thinking problem, it’s a capacity problem.

Your body can only hold so much emotion at once.

Pressure. Fear. Disappointment. Being seen. Being judged. Getting it wrong.

And when that builds up…your body doesn’t say, “let’s go for it.”

It says, “this is too much.”

So instead of moving forward…you hesitate, overthink, or talk yourself out of it.

Even though you want to move forward so badly, your body won’t let you because your system is already full.

But when you say yes to coming home to your body…

This is when the Attuned Woman emerges.

She’s the version of you who is deeply connected, who hears herself clearly, trusts what she hears, and powerfully steps forward.

Your body is the key to becoming her.

Because everything you’re searching for, the clarity, the courage, the calling, it’s not somewhere outside of you waiting to be found.

It’s already inside you. It always has been. It’s just been buried underneath years of stored emotional weight that your body has been holding.

When that weight begins to release and it does release, gently, at your own pace, something opens. Your shoulders drop. Your breath deepens. The world’s noise gets quieter. And in that quiet you can finally hear her, your soul. The version of you that always knew.

That’s the work we do together in the 30-Day Soul Attunement Reset.

We create softness and safety in your body so that what’s been waiting to emerge… finally can.

We come together in private, online movement (body attunements) sessions plus divine feminine coaching, just you and me.

Think joyful, feminine, light, life-giving sessions. Not talk or trauma therapy.

You’ll have sacred practices between sessions to keep the connection alive. A gentle 30-day program that holds you while you become.

This is my birthday month. And it felt joyful to open a few spots at a special rate for the women who are ready.

30% off through Sunday. Percentage lowers after Sunday.

If something in you said yes, that’s her. That’s the Attuned Woman letting you know she’s ready.

Grab your spot here.

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If you have any questions book your 15 min chat here.

Much love,

Essence

Before you read this…(or listen to the audio, highly suggested)

Just imagine for a moment that we’re sitting across from each other.

I ask you to close your eyes.

To bring your attention into your body… and take a deep breath.

And I begin speaking… not to you, but to your body (& your inner child).

Hello body and Divine Child,

I want to talk to you for a second.

I know that sometimes you feel like you’re on the back burner and not number 1 on the list.

But I want you to know that you didn’t do anything wrong.

You never did.

You’ve been here the whole time, haven’t you?

Holding her.
Carrying her.
Getting her through things she didn’t even realize were still sitting inside you.

Even when she ignored you…

Even when she pushed past your need for rest…

Even when she kept moving so she wouldn’t have to feel you…

You stayed.

You kept showing up for her.

And I just want to say…

I see you.

I see the tension you’ve been holding.

I see the tightness, the heaviness… the places that never really got a chance to relax.

I see how much you’ve been carrying without anywhere for it to go.

And you deserve more than that.

You deserve to be listened to.

You deserve to be felt.

You deserve to be taken care of… not just pushed through.

And I want you to know…this is starting to change.

She’s finding her way back to you.

Even now.

Even here.

Reading this.

She’s showing up for herself in small ways.

Trying… even when it’s not perfect.

She’s learning how to listen.

How to stay.

How to not leave you the moment something feels uncomfortable.

She’s learning how to make you feel safe again.

Safe enough to soften.

Safe enough to rest.

And one day… maybe sooner than you think…you’re not going to feel like something she avoids.

You’re going to feel like home.

You’re going to be something she trusts.

Something she listens to.

Something she takes care of… deeply.

You’re going to be on the same side.

And she’s going to take really good care of you.

I’m going to make sure of it.

You don’t have to hold everything forever.

You can soften now.

Even just a little.

Okay…

you can slowly come back.

Open your eyes.

Take a breath.

And just notice what you feel in your body right now.

No need to change it.

Just notice.

Maybe there’s a softening.

Maybe there’s tightness.

Emotion.

or maybe… nothing at all.

All of that is okay.

Now I want to speak to you, the woman.

If that resonated…if you felt even a small shift reading that, perfect.

That’s what happens when your body is finally being met instead of pushed past and last on the list.

This moment right here, this is you continuing to have a different relationship with your body.

Not one where you push through it, ignore it or try to fix it.

But one where you listen.

Where you stay.

Where you let it lead you back to yourself.

And when that relationship begins to shift everything else starts to move differently too.

This is the space I’ve created inside the 30 Day Soul Attunement Reset.

A space where your body is no longer something you have to fight, run from, or manage but something you can trust.

A friend and guide on the journey answering your calling or starting a new phase in life.

You can learn more about the Soul Attunement Reset here:

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If you have any questions book a 15 min chat.

I’m here for you.

And I’m here for your body, too.

Much love,

Essence

It was how hard it can be to sit with your emotions and actually be in your body.

Sometimes it’s hard because your body has been carrying 20 or 30 years of emotional weight.

Stress.
Heartbreak.
Disappointment.
Things you never really had the space to process.

That’s a lot for one nervous system to hold.

This is actually the reason I created the 30 Day Soul Attunement Reset.

It’s designed to help the body release some of that emotional weight so you’re not trying to carry it all by yourself.

Because sometimes healing isn’t just about talking about what happened.

Sometimes the body needs help letting some of it go.

I remember years ago taking a woman through a Radical Shift session.

The next day she sent me a message that said,

“I haven’t slept that good since 1997.”

And it honestly made me laugh when I read it.

But it also stayed with me.

Because it reminded me how often we don’t even realize how much we’re carrying in our bodies until some of it finally releases.

The tension in your shoulders.
The heaviness in your chest.
That feeling of always being a little on edge.

After a while it just becomes normal.

You get used to walking through life with that weight on you.

And sometimes you don’t realize how heavy it really was until something shifts and even a little bit of it moves out of your body.

What most people also don’t realize is that carrying all that emotional energy in the body starts shaping your life in ways you might not connect right away.

In everyday life it can look like:

• feeling exhausted before your day even really begins
• trouble sleeping or relaxing
• always feeling a little tense in your body
• feeling emotionally overwhelmed by things that shouldn’t feel so big

On the journey to answering your calling it can look like:

• constantly second guessing yourself
• feeling creatively blocked
• knowing you’re meant for more but feeling stuck
• struggling to follow through on what you know you want

And in relationships it can show up as:

• difficulty trusting
• shutting down emotionally
• feeling disconnected even when you’re with people you love
• repeating the same patterns again and again

This is why learning to release emotional energy from the body matters so much.

Not just talking about what happened.

But actually letting your body move some of it out.

And since March is my birthday month, I decided to open a small number of Soul Attunement Reset at a discount.

For the first five people or through March 22, sessions are 30% off.

You can either book:

1. The 30 Day Soul Attunement Reset
   A four-week container where we work together to help your body release some of what it’s been carrying and reconnect you with your deeper knowing.

Or

2. A Single Soul Attunement Session
   One session if you’d like to experience the work first.

You can find the details and book either session here:

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If you feel like your body has been carrying a lot and you’re ready to start releasing some of that weight, I would love to support you.

And if you have questions before booking, just reply to this email and ask or click the button to book a 15 min chat.

I’m always happy to talk it through with you.

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Today’s Practice

Today’s practice is a short video that will help you move some emotional energy out of your body.

your body.

Before you press play, I want to share why practices like this matter so much.

When You’re Carrying A Lot

A lot of people try to heal by sitting quietly with their emotions.

Meditation. Journaling. Just being with what they feel.

And those things can be really beautiful.

But if your body has been holding heavy emotional energy for years… sometimes just sitting there with it can feel like too much.

There might be 20 or 30 years of sadness. Disappointment. Stress. Old hurt.

That’s a lot for one body to hold.

So if you’ve ever tried to slow down and immediately felt restless… or uncomfortable… or like you needed to distract yourself…

There’s nothing wrong with you.

Sometimes there’s just a lot there.

Why Moving Energy Helps

One thing I’ve learned over time is that healing isn’t always about sitting there and holding everything.

Sometimes the body needs help releasing what it’s been carrying.

When emotional energy starts to move, something shifts.

Your body softens a little.

Your breath gets deeper.

And suddenly it feels easier to be present with yourself instead of feeling like you have to escape what you’re feeling.

The Long-Term Shift

The more you practice releasing what your body has been holding, the easier it becomes to actually be in your body.

Your emotions don’t feel as overwhelming.

There’s more space inside you.

And it becomes easier to sit with yourself without feeling like you need to numb out or run away from what’s coming up.

That’s the idea behind today’s Self-Healing Sunday practice.

It’s simple. Gentle. Just a way to help your body start letting go of some of what it’s been holding.

You can watch the video and follow along.

And if you feel like someone in your life might need this today, feel free to share it with them.

Take care of yourself today.

Much Love,

Essence

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Not all at once.

But slowly.

Through heartbreak.
Through disappointment.
Through emotional pain, we don’t quite know how to process.

So instead of feeling it… we numb it or avoid it.

Watch instead of read…

What Disconnection Looks Like…

Sometimes it looks like staying busy so you never have to be still.

Scrolling the moment something uncomfortable comes up.

Saying you’re fine when you’re not.

Going through your whole day, the kids, the job, the obligations and feeling like you’re watching your life from somewhere far away.

Like you’re there but you’re not really there.

My Experience…

I know this because there was a time in my life when I was deeply disconnected from myself.

Most days I woke up hungover.

I would lie in bed watching TV during the day and go to work at night.

I would tell myself I wasn’t going to drink that day.

But I always did.

Sometimes I needed a drink just to wake up in the evening.

And sometimes I drank even when I already felt good.

Looking back now, I can see something that I didn’t understand then…

I didn’t know how to be with my emotions.

There was a deep sadness living inside of me that I didn’t even realize was there.

The only time it really came out was when I drank too much and suddenly found myself crying.

As you know, hindsight is 20/20 and back then, I believed something about myself that shaped everything.

I believed I wasn’t lovable.

I thought of myself as damaged goods.

What I understand now is that our emotions are messengers.

But most of us were never taught how to listen to them.

So instead of feeling them, we binge netflix, shop on Amazon or grab a cookie.

And over time, that emotional weight starts shaping the life we experience.

If I could sit down with the woman I was back then, I would tell her this:

You are lovable.
You deserve to be happy.
You deserve a healthy, loving relationship.
And you are worth the time it takes to feel better and learn how to love yourself.

And honestly… I think there are many women walking around carrying that same subtle belief about themselves.

Sometimes the beginning of healing is just noticing something simple:

Have I lost connection with myself somewhere along the way?

A Few Questions to Sit With

• When was the last time I felt truly connected to myself?

• Are there emotions I tend to avoid or numb when they come up?

• What do I usually do when something painful or uncomfortable shows up in my life?

• If I slowed down and listened to my emotions more closely, what might they be trying to tell me?

You don’t have to have perfect answers.

Healing can begin simply by being willing to ask the question.

I would love to hear your insights…hit reply and share.

Much love,

Essence

It might be in your hips.

I know that might sound strange at first, but I’ve seen it before. When the hips start to soften and move, something else begins to open too. It becomes easier to write, to speak, to share what’s actually on your heart.

And it’s not because you suddenly became more confident.

It’s because your body started to feel safe.

«Watch the video»

A lot of women are carrying old shame, fear, or emotional residue in their bodies. Especially in the hips.

The hips hold a surprising amount of emotional memory.

When that energy hasn’t been moved or released, visibility can feel uncomfortable or dangerous.

Even if the mind knows you want to share, the body pulls the brakes.

That’s one of the reasons sensual yoga and sensual movement are such an important part of my visibility practice.

Not because it’s sexy or exercise. (although it is)

But because it moves energy.

When I slow down and move my hips intentionally, I can feel tension release. Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes it’s obvious, but something always shifts.

My body relaxes and there’s more space.

And when the body relaxes, expression becomes easier.

But there’s another layer to this practice too.

Sensual movement is also about building a relationship with your body.

When you slow down enough to really feel yourself, you start noticing the signals your body is constantly sending.

You can sense when something feels aligned.
You can feel when something is off.
You can hear your intuition more clearly.

All of that comes from slowing down and being present in your body.

Homework:

If you want to feel this for yourself, try a small experiment.

Watch me as I do the steps. «Click here»

1. Move your hips 2-3 min: Stand up and place your hands on your hips.
   Slowly begin to move your hips.

2. Stillness 2-3 min: Come to stillness. Stand and simply breathe, noticing your body and letting your breath settle.

3. Breathe deeply 2-3: Begin inhaling your arms up toward the ceiling, and exhaling them back down. Move slowly with your breath.

4. Close: close by bringing your hands together in prayer at your heart. And taking a big deep breath.

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   Enjoy your practice,

   Much love,

   Essence

   

We’re diving into a beautiful practice to help us connect with ourselves and others:

Loving-Kindness Meditation.

This practice has three simple parts that I’ll share with you.

You can even create your own phrases to personalize it.

What is Loving-Kindness Meditation?

This meditation is all about cultivating love and compassion, first for ourselves and then extending it to those around us.

It’s a way to open our hearts and strengthen our connections, not just with others but also with our inner selves.

How to Practice Loving-Kindness Meditation:

Relax: Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths to center yourself and place your hands on your heart.

1. Begin with Yourself: Silently repeat phrases like, “May I be happy. May I be healthy. May I be safe. May I live with ease.” Feel the warmth of these wishes in your heart.

2. Extend to Loved Ones: Now think of someone you care about. See them in your mind’s eye. Repeat those phrases for them: “May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you live with ease.”

3. Extend to Others: Include people you may barely know like co-workers, the barista, and even those you find challenging or flat-out dislike. See them in your minds eye send those well wishes out to them as well.

⁣As you go through all 3 parts of this meditation, let yourself visualize the warmth and compassion flowing from your heart. It’s a beautiful way to deepen your self-connection and spread kindness to others.

Next try creating your own phrases.

1. What is that you need or want to experience or feel? Write down 3 or 4 things.

Example: peace, joy, good health, an open heart

2. Now turn into your own loving kindness meditation.

May I find peace.

May I embrace joy in every moment.

May I enjoy good health.

May my heart remain open.

⁣Then send out your well wishes to your loved ones and others.

Happy meditating!

Much love,

Essence

Let’s talk about confidence.

If you’d rather watch the video version of this message, you can [click here to watch the original Reel on Instagram]. Otherwise, I’ve laid out the heart of the message for you below.

The “Confidence First” Trap

If you have gifts and magic to share but the voice in your head is like, “You need more confidence before you can get started,” I want to talk about this.

Back in the day, I was primarily known for being a radical forgiveness coach. but I was really scared to help people start their healing and forgiveness journey.

I was frozen in fear even though it helped me heal abandonment wounds and I was able to attract love.

I wanted to help other women heal and attract love too. But this voice was like: I need more confidence first.

My mentor would often say, “It’s time to piss or get off the pot.” But something in me just felt scared. Like I need more experience first.

Action Comes Before the Feeling

But here’s the thing: To get that experience, to build that confidence in what you do, you have to take action. You have to do it even though you feel that lack of confidence. You need that repetition, and then the confidence builds over time.

For me, I started taking little scary actions. I coached some people paid, some people free. And over time, it got to this place where I remember telling somebody, “I feel like I can help anyone heal and forgive anything. Like, you bring me somebody, I can help them heal and forgive.”

But that came over time.

(So sorry, my cat is attacking me!)

Start Small, Build Trust

So to get started: Start small. Start free if you have to. Even if you’ve been doing it and you’ve reached a point where you might have stopped and that fear has kicked back in, just start small.

Just start helping.

As you start helping, what you’ll see is that actually, what’s happening underneath the surface is that you are building self-trust.

That happens in the body.

Confidence and self-trust happen in the body.

As you start building that trust with yourself and you see, “Oh, I’m really good at this,” then the confidence starts to build.

Reflection:

Where have you been holding back and waiting for more confidence before you begin?

Hit reply and let me know!

Much love,

Essence

P.S If you’re ready to build to confidence & self-trust so that you share your gifts

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