I was sitting in my car in the driveway after a shift at the club, and I just couldn’t make myself go inside.

I had just spent hours pretending I had a man at home, kids, this whole life.

A customer had asked about me, and I just made it all up. And it felt so real that when I pulled into my driveway and it was just me, this sadness came over me.

And instead of doing what I usually did, being mean to myself, tearing myself down, for the choices I’d made, for the life I had, I put my hand on my heart.

And I just said,

“It’s okay that you’re sad.”

I didn’t know what to call that moment back then.

Now I do.

That was sensuality.

Not the kind we usually think of.

Just me... slowing down long enough to be with myself with a little compassion instead of judgment.

What the World Told Us Sensuality Was

I think a lot of us got the wrong idea about what sensuality even is.

We were taught it had something to do with being attractive, wearing the right clothes, moving a certain way.

Performing to get attention.

Getting hot heavy in the bed.

And if you grew up being sexualized, feeling ashamed of your body, or learning that it wasn’t really safe to be soft, of course you’re going to have a weird relationship with the word sensuality.

I know I did.

I didn’t realize how disconnected I’d become from my own body until I started finding my way back.

My Flavor of Sensuality

When I say sensuality, this is what I mean…

I’m talking about slowing down enough to actually notice yourself.

• To feel your breath…notice where your body feels tight.

• To put your hand on your heart because you need a little comfort.

• To dance in your living room because it feels good, not because anyone’s watching.

• To really enjoy your morning coffee instead of rushing through it.

• To gently & intentionally rub lotion into your skin instead of treating your body like one more thing to check off the list.

Those little moments are sensuality to me.

It’s just being with yourself.

Being present in your body.

Being kind to yourself.

I call it “your sensual essence” because it looks a little different for every woman.

I think most of us have just forgotten what it feels like.

Why I use sensuality as a healing tool

Here’s something I’ve noticed in my own body and in the women I work with.

It’s a whole lot harder to let something go when your body is tense.

When you’re holding your breath, clenching your jaw, tightening your shoulders, trying to hold it all together, your body isn’t exactly in a place where it wants to release anything…so the pain, trauma and shame stay stuck.

But something changes when you soften.

When you take a deep breath, let your body move a little. When you put your hand on your heart and just stay there for a moment, things shift.

That’s why I use sensuality, movement, breath, and gentle touch in my work.

I’ve seen over and over again that a body that feels safe is much more willing to let go than a body that’s trying to hold everything together.

The New Way To See Sensuality

Placing your hand on your heart after a hard moment and saying it’s okay instead of pushing through.

Letting yourself cry without rushing to be okay again, staying with the feeling until it moves.

Letting your hips sway slowly to a song you love, not for anyone watching, just because it feels good.

Caressing your own arm with the kind of tenderness you would offer someone you love.

That is sensuality. Soft. Loving. Inward.

Just for you.

Reflections:

When was the last time you were genuinely soft with yourself, not performing self-care, but actually tender?

Is there a part of your body you have been ignoring, criticizing, or overriding that is asking for your attention right now?

What is one small way you could be in your sensual essence today, not for anyone else, just for you?

Happy Journaling

Feel free to reply and share your thoughts or reflections.

Much Love,

Essence

P.S.

If this resonated and you want to experience this work firsthand, I offer a single session called the Sensual Self Expression Awakening.

It is a body-based experience using breath, movement, and feminine energy to help you soften, open, and release what your body has been holding.

This is perfect for you if:

You feel disconnected from your body and want to find your way back.

You are carrying something heavy and your body feels tight and braced.

You are curious about sensuality as a healing practice but have never experienced it this way.

You just want an hour to be with yourself, fully, in a held and gentle space.

You can find the details of what to expect after the session, price, short video explanation and book through the link below.

Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

Years before I became a coach, and even knew about chakras… I was sitting in an intuitive development group when one of the psychics looked at me and said,

“You’re supposed to be speaking and teaching.”

Her eyes dropped down and looked at my throat.

She asked if I’d been abused as a child because she could feel something was blocking me from expressing myself.

I told her no.

Then she had me do one of the most embarrassing things I’ve ever done.

She had me get down on my knees in front of the whole group.

Then beat on the padded seat of a chair while making these deep grunting sounds to start moving the energy in my throat.

I was painfully shy back then, so this felt like torture.

But I did it because I was ready to heal and change my life.

I thought nothing life changing happened that day.

But about a month later, the group organizer asked me if I was ready to teach a class and although I was super nervous, I said yes.

The next week, I taught my very first manifestation class and shared how I’d manifested some money.

Looking back, I don’t think it was just my throat that needed to open.

My body and my throat were learning that it was safe to express itself.

As an introvert and highly sensitive woman, I constantly have work with the energy of my throat chakra to keep it open and balanced.

What the heck is a throat chakra?

Chakras are energy centers in the body, along the spine and they govern physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

Each one is connected to different emotions, qualities, and areas of life.

For instance many people have heard of the root chakra,

Which represents safety, stability, grounding, and security. It’s your foundation and your sense of belonging.

• The Throat Chakra: Represents communication, self-expression, authenticity, and speaking your truth.

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5 Signs Your Throat Chakra Is Blocking Your Purpose

1. You know exactly what you want to say... until you hit record.

You say it perfectly in the car. Then you press record and your mind goes blank.

2. You’re amazing at helping people privately, but the moment it’s time to be seen, you freeze.

Your wisdom flows so naturally behind the scenes.

But when it’s time to share it publicly, something in your body says, not yet.

3. You’ve been about to post for weeks.

You know what you want to say.

But every day you find another reason to wait.

4. You know exactly what you’re here to share.

But every time you get close, something in your body pulls the brakes.

5. You lose your words when someone asks what you do.

You know your work. But somehow, when it’s time to explain it, the words disappear.

If you resonated with one or more, it’s okay many women struggle with voice and self-expression.

The women I work with already know exactly what they want to say.

Their body just doesn’t feel safe expressing it yet.

How throat chakra blocks show up in everyday life…

• You struggle to say what you really think or feel.

• You avoid difficult conversations.

• You say “yes” when you want to say “no.”

• You hesitate to share your ideas in meetings.

• You avoid asking for a raise or promotion.

• You have trouble setting boundaries.

• You struggle to communicate your needs.

• You find it difficult to be vulnerable or honest.

• You feel misunderstood or disconnected

• You bottle up your feelings until they spill over.

• You avoid conflict to keep the peace.

One practice you can start using today to heal your throat chakra

»Start using your voice before you need your voice.

One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was to start intentionally using my voice when there wasn’t any pressure.

Hum while you’re making dinner.

Sing in the car.

Read a page of a book out loud.

Make sounds.

Let your throat remember what it feels like to be used without needing to perform, teach, or get it right.

The more your body begins to associate expression with safety instead of danger, the easier it becomes to let your voice come through.

Remember, just randomly singing in the car doesn’t count. You need to have the intention.

Example of intention: I’m going to take 5-6 minutes and sing 2 Mary J. Blige songs to help my throat feel safe expressing.

A question to sit with:

If your body felt completely safe, what would you finally say, do or express?

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

Imagine what it would feel like if speaking up didn’t feel so heavy.

If your body wasn’t constantly hitting the brakes every time you wanted to express yourself.

That’s exactly what we’ll begin exploring together inside The Sensual Self-Expression Awakening.

We'll use movement, breath, and gentle somatic practices to help your body release what's been keeping you quiet so it feels safer to…

speak up,

express yourself,

and share what's been on your heart.

BTW, when I say sensuality, I’m not talking about being sexy.

I’m talking about coming back into relationship with your body.

Gently touching your shoulders instead of criticizing them.

Rolling your hips instead of holding tension there.

Letting your body soften after years of surviving.

Dropping into your sensual feminine creates safety and openness in the body. When the body stops clenching it’s easier to release emotional blocks.

Which makes it easier for you to share your gifts, set boundaries or go after what you want.

Join me now to experience your transformation and for the half-off summer special.

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For a long time, I thought healing meant understanding myself better.

If I could just figure out why I felt the way I did...

Read one more book...

Listen to one more podcast...

Then everything would finally click.

And don’t get me wrong, understanding ourselves matters.

Insight is powerful but I’ve noticed something.

I’ve guided women who could tell me exactly why they people-please.

Exactly why they struggle to speak up.

Exactly why they’re still hung up on their ex.

They understood it all.

And yet... when it came time to have the conversation, post the video, ask for what they needed, let go of the ex, or set the boundary...

Their body still said, No.

That’s because understanding something isn’t always the same as moving through it.

Sometimes your mind is ready long before your body is.

Sometimes your body is still holding the fear, grief or shame.

Or the words you never got to say. Or the closure that never came.

And no amount of thinking can release something your body is still carrying.

I’ve experienced this in my own life, too.

Understanding my abandonment wounds helped me make sense of my past.

But it was moving the anger, the grief, and the hurt through my body that finally helped me stop carrying it.

This happens all the time with clients too.

And I want your body to experience this shift too.

So I’m inviting you to join me for the Sensual Self-Expression Awakening.

It’s a private one-on-one session where we use embodiment practices and gentle coaching to help your body release what it’s been holding, so you can stop carrying it alone.

There will be…

Deep breaths

Slow movement

Possibly tears you didn’t know needed to be released

Your heart feeling safe to open and let go

Your voice finally feeling safe enough to speak

Just me and you in a feminine healing session, 75 min of giving your body space to release.

That’s all it takes for something to begin shifting.

If there’s something that’s been weighing on you, something you know you’re ready to move through, I would love to hold that space for you.

With love,

Essence

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P.S. Feel free to reply if you have any questions.

Picture this.

A woman hasn’t hugged her husband in two months.

Ever since she found out he’d lied, she’s been giving him the cold shoulder. They’ve barely spoken.

If she had to put a number on it, she’d say her anger is sitting at about a 74%.

Some days, when she looks at him, it spikes to 86%.

The Analysis

She could spend months talking about what happened.

Replaying the conversation.

Analyzing why he did it.

Trying to understand why it hurt so much.

The Shift

Now imagine something different.

Imagine she’s gently guided into her body instead.

She breathes.

She moves.

She stomps.

She lets the anger have somewhere to go instead of living inside her body.

Then later that day, she hugs her husband for the first time in months.

A few days later, she sits down and lets him explain.

You see, her mind had been trying to resolve the hurt.

Her body finally released enough of it to make room for something new.

I’ve seen these kind shifts over and over in my work helping women process and release emotional blocks.

Processing vs Replaying

I think about this a lot, how much of what we call “processing” is actually just replaying.

Going over the same conversation, the same hurt, the same version of events, again and again in our heads, mistaking the repetition for progress.

People can actually circle and recycle the same thoughts and inner conversations for months or years and still feel angry, and disconnected from themselves or their relationships.

And in one or a few somatic sessions focused on allowing the body to release have a massive shift.

We’re taught that understanding a feeling is the same thing as releasing it.

It isn’t.

You can understand exactly why you’re angry and still be completely stuck in it.

Because release doesn't happen in your mind. It happens in your body.

Reflection questions:

Where are you trying to think your way through something your body is actually ready to release?

What would happen if you moved it instead of replaying it?

Happy journaling!

Much love,
Essence

P.S.

If your body is ready to release anger, sadness, heartbreak or the knot in your throat stopping you from speaking or sharing gifts, I’d like to invite to book a session with me.

The Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

This is a private one-on-one session where I’ll gently guide you through breathwork, sensual movement, energy clearing, and coaching so your body can release what it’s been carrying.

Sometimes the biggest shift isn’t learning something new.
It’s finally giving your body a chance to let go.

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I’ve been joking that I’m in my sensual girl summer.

I’ve been dancing around my house.

Moving slower.

Spending more time in my body.

Even dancing naked in front of the mirror.

And the more I lean into this version of myself, the more alive I feel.

It also made me realize something.

This is the part of my work I’ve kept the quietest.

There was still a little shame there.

It doesn’t look like traditional yoga.

I don’t look like a traditional yoga teacher.

Hell, I don’t match what ego says a sensual yoga teacher looks like…think tall and exotic :/

But what I do know is that it’s powerful and I’ve gotta share it.

It’s softer.

Slower.

Less talking.

Gentle movement & presence.

It’s some of the deepest healing work I know.

I had one client stack her bed pillows and start beating them.

Ten seconds in, she just burst into tears over an argument she’d had with her sister two months earlier.

We didn’t plan that, but her body knew what she needed to release.

I took another woman through a sensual breathing practice.

When we finished, she looked at me and said, “That felt like a psychedelic experience and I got a message from my grandmother.”

That’s what I love about this work.

We may have an agenda, but we don’t try to force an outcome.

I just create a space where your body finally gets a turn, a say.

It knows what it needs, it just needs a safe space to open.

That’s why I created the Sensual Self-Expression Awakening.

It’s a private, one-on-one experience where we use breath, movement, softness, and sensuality to help you reconnect with yourself in a way that’s hard to explain until you’ve experienced it.

It’s not sexual, it’s just slow, feminine & sacred. With bits of fire, because sometimes a girl just need to punch a pillow or scream.

If you’ve been craving a softer way to heal...

A way to feel more feminine…

A way to feel more open, free and expressed…

A way that doesn’t ask you to analyze yourself one more time...

This is for you.

Beginner friendly. All bodies welcome.

Just come in feminine stretchy clothes, whatever makes you feel cute.

It’s a single session, a summer special and you can learn more and book your call below.

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If you have any questions, hit reply.

I look forward to holding space for you.

Much love,

Essence

A Facebook 10 yr old memory popped up the other day of me and my boo and our dog (rip Prince), chilling by the river.

It made me think back to the beginning and how my journey to love began.

The journey to lasting love started when a guy I had been seeing off and on for years invited me on a date to the botanical gardens and I was so excited to go, I’d never been.

Then he stood me up. No call, no text, nothing.

That was the moment something in me snapped, in a good way. I remember thinking, if I want somebody to love and respect me, I have to love and respect myself first. So here is what I did.

1. I became celibate for almost two years.
That same day, I closed the candy shop. If I wanted somebody to actually love and respect me, I had to stop entertaining guys who didn’t deserve my time. I decided to give that time to myself.

2. I stopped drinking and smoking cigarettes.
If I was serious about healing, and learning to love myself, I couldn’t keep doing things to my body that weren’t loving.

3. I spent four months healing my father wound through radical forgiveness.
I went deep into clearing and moving rage through my body. One day I pulled out a picture of my dad and jumped on it fifty times, just to move that energy out of me.

4. I sat naked in front of the mirror.
So I could learn to accept the parts of myself I was always judging. I even ate meals at the mirror. Like a self-acceptance date, just me and the mirror.

5. I scheduled healing sessions on my own calendar.
Five o’clock on a Friday, and the appointment would be something like, cry about the time your friends ignored you for a day in elementary school. I made time to actually feel that.

6. I made time to visualize being in a relationship.
Not just think about it. Really feel what that would feel like in my body. I would picture real hot and steamy scenes that felt extremely real. I would write love letters to him like he was on a trip.

7. When he came into my life, we started with a contract.
After we’d dating for a bit, I didn’t want to sleep with him without commitment, and I didn’t want to force him into commitment either. So we started our relationship on a contract. That’s a whole different story.

8. At the start of that contract, I decided how I wanted the relationship to go, and I told him.
I said “we are not going to cuss at each other. We are not going to talk down to each other. We are not going to tell each other to shut up, etc…”

Twelve years later, we still live inside that agreement. With love and respect. And I think this eighth one is the real reason we’re still together.

None of these eight things looked normal from the outside.

Jumping on a photo of my dad, eating naked in front of a mirror, scheduling a cry session like a dentist appointment.

But every single one of them was me learning how to actually be with myself, before I asked anyone else to be with me.

That’s the part nobody tells you.

The relationship doesn’t make you whole.

You becoming whole first is what makes the relationship possible.

Share this with a friend, if you know someone whose looking for love or wants to repair their relationship (that also should start with becoming whole).

I made a reel about it too, it has 105 saves :)

What are your thoughts about this journey, over the top, lol?

Reply or msg on IG if you have any questions for me.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

If you are ready to rebuild your relationship with yourself and your body to become healed and whole, reply to this email and we’ll schedule a time to talk.

And that was the story of my life until I learned what I’m about to share with you.

I knew that if I wanted to attract love and respect I needed to learn how to love and respect myself first.

I was doing my best but I was still struggling with self-love because my acne was out of control. I felt like I couldn’t love myself fully until it was cleared up.

Then in my Radical Forgiveness training, I learned that love is unconditional acceptance.

People define it in different ways but this one always stuck with me.

I remember it was my first cat that really helped me understand this definition.

My boyfriend had just bought me this beautiful leather case for my Surface. I had just started a new job and felt very professional.

Then one morning, I woke up to my cat trying to wake me up to feed him… by clawing the leather case and leaving scratch marks all over it.

I was so upset.

But 10 seconds later, when I looked at his face, all I could do was pick him up and rub noses with him.

That is unconditional acceptance.

I didn’t think, “You’re a bad cat.”

I thought, “You’re a cat. This is what cats do.”

I accepted him and all that comes with being a cat.

And that’s what self-love has become for me.

Self-love is unconditional acceptance of myself.

I love and accept myself even though my past isn’t perfect.

I love and accept myself even though I’ve made mistakes.

I love and accept myself even though my belly hangs over my pants.

I love and accept myself even though I have dark circles under my eyes.

Now, that doesn’t mean there isn’t work to be done or things I may want to change.

But the question becomes:

How can I take this perceived flaw and still unconditionally accept myself?

And for the things I do want to change, can I change them from a place of:

“I accept where I am, and I want something different.”

Instead of:

“I hate myself, and I need to change.”

Because there’s a big difference.

One is love.

The other is war.

And I’ve found that lasting change happens much more quickly when we stop going to war with ourselves.

With love,

Essence

Not quite unhappy at her job, but not growing there either.

She kept saying things like, “I don’t know how to get myself out of it” and “I feel like I’m dwelling more than I’m doing.”

And as she talked, the thing that kept surfacing wasn’t about her relationship or her job at all.

It was that she spent years giving everything she had to everyone around her.

Her relationship. Her kid. Her work.

And somewhere in there, she stopped giving anything to herself.

She said it herself:

“I cater to the relationship more than my own needs, and then maybe I come across needy if I’m not getting the same in return.”

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That sentence has stayed with me because I think a lot of women have been there.

Here’s what I told her.

Even if he gave you everything back. Even if he matched your effort exactly. It still wouldn’t be enough.

Because he was never the source.

You are the only one who can fill you up.

That’s not a nice quote for Instagram.

It’s the actual mechanics of what happens when you feel that need, that low grade resentment when someone doesn’t respond the way you hoped they would.

Your body isn’t asking them to fill you up. It’s asking you to notice that you’ve been running on empty.

And yes you can ask for help but most women take that extra time to do something else instead of replenishing.

This shows up outside relationships too

I want you to think about how this same pattern plays out when it’s time to show up for your purpose.

To post the thing. To say the thing. To finally let people see you, the real you.

So many women I work with pour everything into everyone but themselves, and then wonder why their body freezes the second it’s their turn to take up space.

Why the podcast never gets recorded after three weeks of researching microphones.

It’s the same well.

You can’t give from nothing. You can’t be visible from nothing.

Whatever you’ve been pouring into your relationship, your job, your kids, it’s the same reserve your voice, your message, and your calling need too.

And when that well is dry, your body knows before your mind does.

It pulls back.

It hesitates.

It researches instead of taking action.

Your job isn’t to get them to fill you

With my client, the shift wasn’t in the relationship. It was in her.

It’s your job to heal what’s asking to be healed.

To give your body and soul what it needs.

It’s your job to give yourself the acknowledgment you’re waiting on someone else to give you.

You in control of your wholeness and fullness.

Whatever anyone else brings just adds to that. It was never supposed to fill you completely.

I know that because I’ve lived it.

I spent years overriding myself, trying to have enough energy left over for my work, my people, and my calling when I had already spent it all somewhere else.

I had to learn a completely different way to be in my body so that I could consistently show-up and take action.

If your gifts are still sitting inside you

If you’ve got a message, a story, or a calling that’s been waiting, and you keep starting and stopping, I want you to hear this:

Nothing is wrong with you.

Your body isn’t sabotaging you.

It’s protecting a well that’s been empty for a long time, and it’s not going to let you pour from it until you start filling it back up.

That’s the foundation of the Somatic Visibility Blueprint, my beta program (learn more).

It’s not another content strategy or posting schedule.

I help you create the safety to be visible.

Through breath.

Through movement.

Through softness.

Through sensuality.

Once your nervous system is relaxed enough, your body knows how to replenish itself, and safety follows.

I believe that when a woman feels safe in her body, her voice, gifts, and medicine naturally begin to come forward.

If this feels like something you’d like to explore, I’d love to talk.

I’m looking for two women to take through my beta program.

Book a free 45-minute Visibility Call and we’ll look together at where your well has gone empty and what it would take to fill it back up.

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A question to sit with

Where are you waiting for someone else, or something else, to fill you up?

And what would it look like to start filling that in yourself first?

Much love,

Essence Turner

And I could tell you about the time I sold two $8K programs in one month. (It was really cool!!)

But when I sat down to write this email, I kept thinking about my first $300.

I met her at a Radical Forgiveness retreat weekend while I was still training to become a Radical Forgiveness coach.

She told me she’d had a dream that if she didn’t start clearing her resentment from the past, she was going to get cancer.

So she asked me how much I would charge to spend a few hours with her in person.

I had no idea what to say.

I wasn’t certified yet.

I didn’t know what to charge.

I didn’t feel ready.

My brain immediately started looking for reasons why someone else would be a better fit.

But I blurted out, “$300 for three hours.”

And she said, “Perfect.”

I remember setting up the room like it was a VIP Day, with water, fruit and snacks.

And then we started diving into her past pain and anger.

Eventually, we pulled out my favorite tool: the big red cushion and racket.

There was so much unprocessed anger there because, like many women, she had never given herself permission to feel it.

She had spent years telling herself that anger was wrong.

That anger was bad.

But that’s kind of my specialty.

So I basically got paid to do one of my favorite things in the world: rage out.

I guided her into her anger and rage and let her move it out of her body through that racket while she beat the hell out of that cushion.

And honestly?

It’s still one of my favorite memories.

Not because I made first coaching dollars.

Because of what happened in that room.

Because I got to witness someone finally give herself permission to feel something she’d been carrying for years.

And that’s also one of those moments when I knew I was hooked.

That I was going to keep walking down this path as a healer and coach.

I’m so grateful that she chose me.

And I’m so grateful to past me for saying yes even though I wasn’t “ready.”

Reflection questions:

• Where in your life have you been waiting to feel “ready”?

• Is there a part of you that already knows what path you’re meant to walk?

• What would happen if you trusted yourself before you had all the credentials, certainty, or proof?

Happy journaling!

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

If you're a woman with a purpose in your heart and you know you're here to help others heal, create, teach, or lead but your nervous system freezes when it's time to take action…that's exactly the kind of work I love doing.

You don't need more credentials. Sometimes you need more safety in your body. If that speaks to you, reply and let's set up a time to talk today.

Or book a call here.

Of course you will still hear from me.

But this week I’ve been playing with…

What turns me on?

What makes me feel juicy?

What lights me up?

I just want to deepen into my aliveness, sexiness, boldness…

This isn’t about sex.

It’s an experiment of feeling turned on even if I’m at desk writing an email or making us dinner.

My body is craving even more feminine energy.

More slowness.

More softness.

More sensuality.

More sexiness.

More dancing.

More naughty-ness.

So as I’ve been sitting with this energy over the last few days, I realized that I need to let self-healing Sunday go.

I’m sure at some point it will morph into something else.

Stay tuned.

But you will still hear from me during the week.

I’ll leave you with a bit of reflection.

What habits, things or relationships is your soul guiding you to release or revamp?

What would turn you on or light you up right now? (big and small)

How can you have yourself that this week?

Talk soon.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

I’m looking for 2 women who want to deepen into their feminine energy and sensuality to help create more softness and safety in your body.

When your body feels safe it’s so much easier to take action on your purpose and share your gifts.

If your soul has been saying “it’s time” this invitation is your confirmation.

Let’s talk about your goals and desires and then we’ll explore working together.

Book your call here.

Or reply with any questions

Yesterday during my morning practice I felt called to get out my shamanic drum and go on a medicine journey.

I pulled a card from my animal spirit deck and the Eagle showed up.

The Eagle carries the medicine of higher vision, discernment, and mastery.

How this helps:

When we’re in the middle of a challenge, a decision, or uncertainty, it’s easy to become consumed by what is directly in front of us.

Eagle reminds us to rise above the situation and see it from a different perspective.

To remember that there may be more available to us than what our human eyes can currently see.

This is why Eagle feels like such powerful medicine right now.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, confused, or unable to see your next step, Eagle may have a message for you.

Today’s journey is an opportunity to connect with that energy and discover what wisdom is available for you.

Watch the 14 minute replay here.

Just relax and allow yourself to be guided.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

I’m looking for 3 women to take through my beta program.

This is for you if you know you have a message, wisdom, gifts and talents to share but your body and fear keeps you frozen and hidden.

But now you’re ready to be committed to doing the inner work it takes to put yourself out there.

I believe that not being able to share your voice, gifts and talents with the world is a nervous system problem not strategy, confidence or mindset.

We repattern your nervous system through healing trauma, connecting with the body, deep self-love and embracing your feminine energy.

Then it will be so much easier to put yourself out there with ease and authenticity.

This is what we do together behind the scenes.

If this resonates reply with the word “beta” and we can talk about it a little more.

Or you can book your visibility assessement here.

He would tell my friends he wanted my number, and everything in me was a no.

When I was 14 and a freshman in high school, there was this senior who wanted to date me.

And when I tell you I avoided this boy at all costs, I mean it.

If I saw him coming, I’d turn around and go the other way.

I’d ignore him.

And act like I didn’t hear him calling my name.

But one freezing-cold day, I was walking home from school when he pulled up next to me in his car and asked if I wanted a ride.

I said, “No, thanks.”

But he kept driving slowly next to me.

And y’all...

It was cold.

So I finally got in. Smh…

And from that point on, I was completely head over heels.

Skipping class, kissing in the hallway, and cheering him on at his basketball games.

Eating meals with his family.

It was everything I dreamed of for a few months.

Before I knew it...things fell apart.

Someone lied on me and he believed them over me.

We broke up.

Everyone in school knew, there were rumors, whispering, and finger-pointing.

He broke my heart, humiliated me and the whole thing wasn’t worth it.

If I could go back and say one thing to that little 14-year-old girl, it would be:

Baby, if everything in you is telling you to avoid him, avoid him.

Trust yourself.

Trust your gut.

Trust your intuition.

You don’t need any more evidence than that tight feeling in your body.

You don’t need to give him a chance.

Don’t need to talk yourself out of what you already know.

And no matter how cold it is, you’ve been walking home in the freezing cold Michigan winters for years…You can make it another twenty minutes.

LOL!

Looking back, what I can clearly see now is that self-trust has always been one of my biggest spiritual lessons.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

I’m looking for 3 women for my beta round.

Women who know there is something inside of them that wants to be expressed.

A message.

A gift.

A body of work.

A calling.

Women who are ready to stop waiting and start honoring that pull.

The work we do together isn’t about forcing yourself to be visible.

It’s about helping your body feel safe enough to let you be visible.

Safe enough to share your message.

Safe enough to share your gifts.

Safe enough to stop talking yourself out of the very thing you’re here to do.

Together we’ll create a nervous-system-safe visibility process so you can share your message and gifts with more ease, trust, and authenticity.

If you feel the pull, book your visibility assessment.

If I woke up tired, stressed, frustrated, or in a funk, I figured that was just where I was.

What I’ve learned over the years is that my state of being is something I can shift.

I can tune and understand why I feel the way I feel, and I can have compassion.

But I also don’t have to stay there.

I don’t want to spend my life waiting for a better mood before I fully show up for my day.

That’s why I created today’s Self-Healing Sunday practice.

You don’t have to be in a bad mood to do it.

Think of it more like when you dress up to feel a little better.

This is simple way to shift your energy, lift your mood, and reconnect with yourself before you move into the rest of your day or run the next errand.

It’s only four minutes.

And it’s fun!

Get ready to smile and play.

Press play and do it with me.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

Ready to start sharing your gifts and magic with the world but your body and fear hold you back?

I’m looking for 3 case study students for somatic visibility program.

Together we will use feminine energetics, embodied self-love and movement to repattern your nervous system so that sharing your gifts online feels easy, fun and natural.

{Book your call}

Are you the woman who’s done the deep inner work?

You can see exactly where someone else is stuck and help them through it.

You also know exactly what to do in your business and your life.

But you can’t make yourself do it consistently.

You’ve probably read more books and taken more courses than you’ll ever need.

But you still sign up for new ones because you tell yourself you’re still preparing.

The truth is you’re already prepared.

When you work with people they leave feeling lighter, more clear and more capable of trusting themselves.

You help others deeply because you bring strategy and soul to the work that you do.

I bet there’s a part of you that wants to shout what you do and how well you do it from the rooftops.

But there’s another part of you that’s terrified of being judged as inadequate.

So you hold back.

And when you hold back, that’s you keep your medicine from the next person who needs it.

Here’s what I’ve learned after working with women like you.

The block isn’t your knowledge. You don’t need another certification course or book.

Because that’s not where the block is.

The block lives in your body.

A part of you learned a long time ago that being known and seen by other people didn’t always end well.

Maybe it ended with you being judged or misunderstood.

And that part is still in there, making decisions and pulling you back and still finding reasons to wait.

For some of us, telling ourselves to “just get over it” doesn’t work.

I know for me, it only made me feel worse because I literally couldn’t just get over it even though I tried really hard.

That’s because the resistance isn’t coming from our thoughts.

It’s coming from a memory stuck in your body.

And you can’t think and affirm your way out of that.

That’s the work I do.

We don’t start with strategy and mindset.

We start with actually repatterning the part of you that keeps pulling you back.

That just means we’re healing the block in your body so you can follow your calling.

And change the lives that you’re here to change.

Your work is powerful and you know it.

And it’s time to tell the world about it.

I’m currently looking to work with 3 women privately in a case study round of my Somatic Visibility Blueprint.

It’s nine weeks of private 1:1 work.

Followed by 2 months of integration coaching.

That’s 4 months of support.

By the end, you’ll be sharing your work, your message, and touching lives without your body and nervous system stopping you.

It starts with booking your free visibility assessment.

It’s a no-pressure conversation.

We cover the different areas of visibility, locate the block, and come up with a plan to get you moving forward. Then we’ll talk about the program.

If you love it, we’ll get you set up. If it’s not a fit, you leave with more clarity.

I have a few spots open this weekend

Book call

I look forward to talking to you.

Much love,

Essence

I will say that people talk about healing yourself but they never really tell you how they did it, I’m guilty of that too.

I share this stuff with my clients but not so much publicly.

So I’ll tell you how my healing journey began.

I would sit down on the mattress in my empty spare room and call in the angels I was working with and I would just say; “show me what needs to be healed”.

And they would show me.

I’d have a list.

And then I would take that list and put those things on my calendar. Around my work schedule.

Thursday at 7:00 pm “cry about the time the girls ignored me at school”.

I knew that’s what I needed because when I looked at that on the list and thought back to that moment there was a knot in my throat. I could feel the tears right there. So I scheduled time to let them come.

Friday at 6:00 pm “work through the time my dad said he’d be around for me then his phone was disconnected for a long time.”

I didn’t know what the healing would look like. So I just wrote work through and trusted that when I showed up at six on Friday I would know.

That I felt guided to journal about that time in my life when I was in an abusive relationship and I told my dad and he promised to be there and listen and he disappeared.

So much rage came and the angels guided me on how to move the energy through.

So I pulled out a picture of him from an old photo album.

Tossed it on the floor.

And I stomped on it.

Fifty times.

This is what my healing looked like in the beginning.

And whatever I couldn’t get through on my own I took to my coach Tony at our next session.

And he’d help me process it.

I worked on myself and worked with my coach for 5 straight years.

That’s how I healed.

Healing myself was important to me on my journey of helping others heal.

And it’s funny to think back on those days because it was like my part-time job and I really showed up for it.

This was my healing journey and yours may look different.

How or what are you being called to heal right now?

Feel free to hit reply and share.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

I’m looking for 3 women to take through my beta program.

This is for you if you know you have a message, wisdom, gifts and talents to share but your body and fear keeps you frozen and hidden.

But now you’re ready to be committed to doing the inner work it takes to put yourself out there.

I believe that not being able to share your voice, gifts and talents with the world is a nervous system problem not strategy, confidence or mindset.

We repattern your nervous system through healing trauma, connecting with the body, deep self-love and embracing your feminine energy.

Then it will be so much easier to put yourself out there with ease and authenticity.

This is what we do together behind the scenes.

If this resonates reply with the word “beta” and we can talk about it a little more.

Or you can book your visibility assessement here.

I used to think nobody would take me seriously because of my past. And that thought kept me from sharing my gifts online for years.

I used to be an exotic dancer, a drinker and a wild child.

Years later in 2012 I started my healing journey. And I realized that helping other women heal is my purpose.

But in the background there was this voice saying, if they knew what you used to do, they won’t trust you. They’ll think you’re a bad person.

So I hid it. I tried to show up as this more professional, polished version of myself.

And what that actually did was keep me frozen. Because I was carrying a secret. And the weight of that secret would not let me move.

I still remember the day in 2016 when I told my spiritual friends about my past and how free I felt.

Here’s what I learned.

That was shame. And shame lives in the body. It wasn’t a mindset problem. I couldn’t just decide to feel differently about my past.

I had to actually do the work, the forgiveness work, the body work to free myself from it.

And when I did, something shifted. I started telling people I was a dancer.

And I got to this place where I could genuinely say if someone wants to judge me for what I did in my past, that’s on them.

Because here’s the truth.

Your past is what made you who you are.

You might not even be on this path of wanting to help people if you hadn’t gone through exactly what you went through.

It was all purposeful. All of it made you you.

And the work of owning that… that’s not positive thinking. That’s body and nervous system work.

It’s about freeing yourself from shame at the cellular level so you can actually show up.

That’s the deeper work.

And if you need help with that, I’m here.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

I have a beta program that I’m launching and I’m looking for three women to take through the program.

This is for you if you know you have a message, wisdom, gifts and talents to share but your body and fear keeps you frozen and hidden.

But now you’re ready to be committed to doing the inner work it takes to put yourself out there.

If this is you reply with the word “beta” and we can talk about it a little more.

Or you can book your visibility assessement here.

Raise your hand if you’re the woman with notebooks full of ideas?

Your course pages are already printed out and ready.

You have messages in your notes app that you know would help someone.

But when it comes time to share them, sell them, talk about them, you get a knot in your throat.

Fear rises in your body, and you freeze.

And you don’t end up sharing or selling your courses.

You start to feel disappointed, so you pull back, you go into hiding.

And then a few months later, you create another course or have a new idea. Hoping this one will feel so alive that you’ll finally just be propelled into action.

But after a while, you start noticing something.

The same thing keeps happening…idea, excitement, creation, but when it’s time to actually put yourself out there, something in you hits the brakes.

I know this because I’ve freed myself from this exact pattern.

The biggest lesson that I learned was…

It’s not the program or offer.

And it’s not the message either.

The thing that’s stopping you lives a little deeper than that.

It’s your body and your nervous system.

And that’s exactly what we work with together.

When your body and nervous system are on board, everything changes.

You have an idea, a course, a message you want to share. But this time, when you go to share it your body feels open. Free.

You write the email and you send it. You get on the video and you talk.

You post on social media and you don’t spend the rest of the day beating yourself up about it.

Your messages get out of you without your body fighting back.

You touch lives. You touch hearts. With the exact ideas and courses that have been sitting in those notebooks waiting.

And maybe most importantly, you become someone who supports herself when she puts her work out there. Instead of someone who tears herself down.

That’s what’s possible on the other side of this work.

Here’s what we do together over 9 weeks.

· We start with your body. Not your content. Not your strategy. Your body.

· 3 private somatic coaching sessions a month, personalized to exactly where you are that week.

· We use coaching, movement, breathwork, and energy healing to expand what your nervous system can hold so that showing up starts to feel possible instead of terrifying.

· We find your wound to wisdom stories. The ones your soul is ready to share. And we shape them in a way that feels true, not performed. Yours.

· We build your visibility blueprint around your body’s timing. Not someone else’s formula.

· And we work on your authentic presence, what it feels like to push the live button and actually have your body with you when you do.

This is private. Just you and me. No group calls. No keeping up with anyone else.

You will be able to take action and follow through with ease!

After the 9 weeks, we’ll do a couple more check-ins so you have support as you integrate.

Right now, the case study investment is $997.

Full price is $1,600. You’re getting access at reduced rate because we’re building and documenting this together in real time.

In exchange, I ask for weekly check-ins, a video testimonial at the end, and permission to use what unfolds anonymously in my content and to help build the program.

3 spots only.

To take the next step, book a free 45 minute visibility call here

Book your call

or just reply to this email and we’ll start the conversation there.

Much love,

Essence

It’s normal. But it also keeps a lot of people from starting and they stay hidden because they are so worried about what other people think.

Or maybe you’re worried about the future, money or your love life.

As I sat down to write about this it made me think about something I wrote in my Goddess journal years ago.

And I wanted to share it with you.

Today goddess Maat said that worrying is anti-goddess. It’s not like you’re a goddess who worries. It’s more like you take your goddess dress off, lay it on the bed, and then put on an old dusty furry jogging suit with a huge hood that covers your whole head, and no one can see you.

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It’s cutting you off from the light. ⠀

Goddesses don’t worry. They plan and execute.

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If Goddess Maat were here as a human, she wouldn’t worry about anything. Let’s say she wanted more money. She would take note of her skills and use them to trade for money. Or she would sell things online or have a garage sale.

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If she wanted happiness, she’d make a list of all the things that make her happy and begin doing them. She might also make a list of things that make her unhappy work through whatever was impeding her happiness or toss out the things that no longer served her.

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If she wanted love, she’d go crazy giving love wherever and to whoever she could until love had no choice but to come back to her.

If something unwanted was going on in her life, she would notice the problem and then come up with a plan to solve it. And no one could stand in her way.⠀

Essence’s Goddess Journal 2018

Reflection:

What have you been worried about? (If nothing, celebrate that!)

If you had to come up with a quick solution, not a perfect one, but a quick one what would that be?

How does that feel? How can that lead to a lasting solution?

How do you know when you’re in worry mode?

I’d love to hear from you!

Much love,

Essence

A few years ago my friend took me through Brene Brown’s Core Values exercise. (Brene Brown is a popular self-help author)

At first, I thought it was fun until we approached the last two.

Number 2 for me was “Making a difference”. I’m like “Yep, that fits me”.

And I couldn’t wait for my number 1 core value!!

You’ll never guess what it was… “Vulnerability” (insert emoji puke face)

I was like, “Shit, let’s start this exercise over.”

Although I was tempted to start the exercise again, we didn’t, and I decided to own it.


The very next day I was leading a morning ritual on Zoom with some ladies in my Facebook group at the time.

I started telling them a story about something I went through, they listened, held space, and out of nowhere, I started bawling my eyes out.

I was crying and thinking to myself, “I hate Brene Brown right now.”

To top that off, I had no tissue and had to blow my nose into a blanket. I was so embarrassed.

But when I looked into their eyes, I knew what was happening at that moment was perfect.

Those ladies needed to see that and know it’s ok to break down and feel your feelings.

It’s ok to be vulnerable.

Feeling your feelings is a part of being human.

Feelings and vulnerability are a part of your feminine flow.

When you disconnect from this and primarily live from your mind, you shut down your magic.

And your magic is beautiful!

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

I’m looking for 3 women to go through my Somatic Visibility Blueprint.

A private case study program for coaches, healers, and lightworkers who know they’re ready to share their work with the world but whose body keeps saying no every time they try.

This isn’t a course you take alone. It’s private one-on-one support where we work directly with your nervous system, so showing up online stops feeling like something you have to force.

Because you have medicine people need. And we’re going to get it out of you.

You get access at a reduced investment as we build and document the process together.

If you’re one of the 3, reply to this email or click the button to learn more about the program.

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