Let’s have a little catch-up conversation today. 💛

I’ve been a little quiet because I’ve been slowing down and really listening to what I want to create next.

Also, I’ve been thinking about people-pleasing lately.

Not just saying yes when you want to say no.

But the ways we hold back, or choose what we think we “should” do because we’re worried about what someone else might think.

In this video, I’m sharing a client story, an awkward Uber ride where I caught myself doing the same thing, and why I decided to record this as a video instead of forcing myself to write a blog.

If you’d like to join me for the conversation, press play.

Much love,

Essence

This needs to be on a billboard…so women feel less alone.

"I've been in a funk and I can't shake it.

I'm irritable.

I'm yelling.

I'm snapping.

Even when I say I'm going to be patient, I lose it.

I don't like this version of me.

Whatever this energy is, I just want it gone."

That’s what I’ve been hearing from women…

Can you relate?

If so, this session IS for you.

I worked with a woman who was so angry about the responsibility weighing on her with the kids plus her job, and she was just “over it.”

But of course she can’t quit her job or run away from the kids, so she became resentful. Angry. Pissed off.

At first she could hide it, but then it just started exploding out.

So our work together gave her the space to safely express the anger and resentment.

She screamed into a pillow. Punched it.

I continued to guide the anger through the breath and movement.

By the end, she sat up and looked so blissful.

She said, “I’m about to step into my me era!!”

I’m like…Yasssss!!!

This is what we do in the Sensual Self-Expression Session

Sensual doesn’t mean sexual. It means felt.

Sometimes the most honest, sensual expression your body needs isn’t softness; it’s fire. It’s rage.

We move the fire so that you can finally put the weight down and feel safe enough to relax and soften.

If your body & soul are craving to feel light and blissful again…I’m inviting you to come drop the weight and lighten your load.

All you have to do is show up, and I’ll guide the rest.

My private 75-min online sanctuary is:

-Breathwork to make your body feel safe
-Energy clearing to release the old heartbreak + disappointment
-Rage release — shake, scream, punch the pillow, whatever is there
-Then sensual, soft movement to soothe the fire and bring you back home to yourself

75 mins, just you and me, private on Google Meet. Not recorded.

Come exactly as you are…well, in stretchy clothes.

Bring a pillow, yoga mat or blanket, journal.

No experience needed.

Regular price $222 → Summer special $111 until tomorrow.

Join me

Hope to see you soon,

Much love,

Essence

Maybe you’ve had to navigate things changing like..

• The co-parenting agreement changes and suddenly everything feels uncertain again.

• You think your relationship is finally getting better, and then the other person says they’re done.

• A friendship you’ve had for years fades away.

Her whole world felt like it was changing. The relationships around her just weren’t the same anymore, and she was trying so hard to hold it all together.

She was scared. Sad. Overwhelmed. And underneath all of that, she was carrying so much emotional weight.

Even though I’m a coach, I didn’t spend the session trying to help her think differently about what was happening.

I could have.

We could’ve talked about reframing it.

We could’ve looked for the lesson and found the silver lining.

But that’s not what she needed.

Because when your body is full of sadness, grief, fear, or anger, it doesn’t matter how many positive thoughts you try to think.

Your body is still carrying those feelings.

So instead, I guided her through breath and movement.

I gave her space to cry.

To shake.

To let her body express everything it had been holding onto.

I think this is where so many people get confused.

They’re afraid that if they really let themselves feel their sadness, anger, fear, or grief, they’ll get stuck there forever.

And honestly... sometimes they do.

But that’s because nobody ever taught us how to move through them.

We replay the conversation.

We think about why we’re angry and what we should’ve said.

But that’s not the same thing as letting your body move the emotion.

The body needs something different; that’s why we bring in movement, breath, sound, yelling, punching etc...

And sometimes your body also needs someone saying, “You’re safe. Keep going.”

When your body is safe, soft and open, the emotions release.

Once the body has a chance to move some of what it’s been carrying, the mindset shift usually happens on its own.

That’s exactly what happened with my client.

A few days later, she said...

“I was able to grow from everything that happened instead of letting it drag me down.”

I was happy to hear that and super excited that she got there so quickly.

Because nothing around her had changed.

The people and the circumstances were the same.

Yet, she wasn’t getting pulled back into those same heavy feelings every time she thought about what had happened.

She could think about it and make decisions without feeling consumed by it.

This is the power of releasing the emotions that are weighing you down.

If you’ve been trying to think your way into feeling better and it just isn’t working...

If you’re still waking up anxious.

Still replaying what happened.

Still carrying that heaviness around no matter how hard you try to let it go...

I’d love to work with you.

In the Sensual Self-Expression Awakening, we spend 75 minutes putting your body into a deep state of release so it can begin expressing what’s been hurting and letting go of some of the emotional weight it’s been carrying.

It’s a chance to step out of holding everything together for a little while.

To breathe.

To move.

To let your body do what it hasn’t felt safe enough to do on its own.

The release begins during our session, but it doesn’t end there.

I’ll also give you a few soul practices so that the lightness, emotional freedom, and clarity you’ll feel in the session continue to unfold.

Right now, I’m offering these sessions at half price, but only for three more days.

If your body has been quietly saying, “I can’t keep carrying this,” I’d love to hold that space for you.

❤️ Book your session here.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

You can go deeper.

Some women come for one session. Others know they're ready for a deeper journey.

If you're longing to build a relationship with your body that changes the way you move through every part of your life, let's schedule a consultation and see if we're a good fit.

Book your consultation here.

It lived in my body.

We’d been dating for a few months when I received that call and I thought he was the one.

He wasn’t, and I was heartbroken.

At the time, all I did was get drunk to try to numb the pain and it worked well enough

But fast forward years later, when it was time for me to manifest a relationship, that old betrayal kept coming up.

Making me feel sick to my stomach.

I journaled about it. Talked to my friends about it hoping that the pain would go away, but it didn’t.

BTW…When you’re going to therapy, journaling, or telling your bff what happened for the 10th time and the pain is still there, there’s a reason.

⁣You are trying to solve a body problem with your mind.

And it will never work.

⁣Your mind understands what happened.

But your body is still keeping the score.

And that’s where healing the betrayal had to start with me.

My body.

⁣That’s why my work is built on this truth: Understanding lives in the mind.

Release happens in the body.

That’s where the hurt is stored.

If you’re carrying the hurt and pain of something that happened and you’re ready to release that burden and set yourself and your body free…

⁣⠀

Join me for the “Sensual Self-Expression” session.

A Private Healing Session to Release the Emotional Weight from Your Heart and Feel Alive Again.

It’s a private, 75-minute healing experience where we bypass the thinking mind and go directly to the source.

⁣⠀

Using gentle breathwork and energy clearing, we create deep safety in your body so it can finally express the hurt & release the weight it’s been carrying.

For the next 4 days, you can book this private, one-on-one session for just $111.

Book here

This special rate ends Friday at midnight.

⁣Feel free to reply and ask any questions.

Much love,

Essence

People Say, “Just Let It Go.”

Just let go of the anger, let go of the heartbreak…

Let go of what they said, what they did…basically, just forget about it and all will be good.

I’ve never liked that advice. Actually, I hate it.

Because if you’ve ever been hurt, held resentment, or anger toward someone, you know 97% of the time it’s not that simple.

You’ve tried to “just let it go”. Then you journaled about it, talked to your friends about it. You understand it from every logical angle.

Yet, the feeling stays: a tightness in your chest, a knot in your throat, a weight in your heart, but you just can’t think your way out of the heaviness.

Here’s why…

That’s because understanding lives in your mind but release lives in your body.

Your body is still holding onto the tension from every unshed tear, every time you swallowed your truth, every moment you had to be strong when you wanted to fall apart.

Your mind is trying to erase what happened, but your body is keeping the score.

To truly let go, your body has to have a chance to finally process and release what it’s been holding.

That is the work we do in a Sensual Self-Expression Awakening session.

This isn’t more talking.

It’s a private, 75-minute healing experience where I guide you through gentle breathwork, energy clearing, and intuitive movement designed to create profound safety in your nervous system.

It’s in that safety that your body can finally release the weight you’ve been carrying, creating space for you to feel light, clear, and alive again.

The women I work with don’t just feel better, they feel freer.

One client told me after a single session, “I felt a renewed sense of empowerment and clarity... ready to take on the world.”

And another shared, “I feel like a burden has been lifted off my chest.”

And she said “The energy shift I experienced was incredible…”

You can feel that too.

If you are tired of trying to “just let go” and are ready for a process that actually works, this is your invitation.

[Click here to book your private $111 healing session.]

This special rate ends Friday at midnight.

If you have any questions, just reply to this email and ask.

I’m here.

Much love,

Essence

Because I think this is something every woman needs to experience.

We talked about something I think about all the time.

How our bodies carry so much more than we realize.

Every stressful conversation, shame, grief, disappointment, resentment...

It all adds up.

And after a while you don’t just feel stressed.

You feel heavy.

Like you’re carrying something you can’t quite put into words.

During the class I guided everyone through a simple movement practice to help their body begin letting some of that weight go.

Then we slowed everything down with breath and gentle movement.

It was such a beautiful reminder that your body already knows how to let go. Sometimes it just needs a little space and permission.

Watch the replay here →

It’s after 7 on Sunday and finding 30 min to follow along would be such a great gift to give yourself.

If you’re watching and you find yourself thinking, I want more of this...

I’d love to invite you into one of two ways we can work together.

Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

A private 75-minute session where we gently listen to what your body has been carrying and create space for it to move.

Sometimes that’s grief.

Sometimes it’s anger.

Sometimes it’s the words you’ve never been able to say.

Current summer rate: $111 (click here)

The Clearing

If you know your body has been carrying things for years, this five-session experience gives us the time to build a relationship with your body and help it let go layer by layer.

It includes one 75-minute Sensual Self-Expression Awakening followed by four 45-minute breathwork sessions so your body has the support to keep releasing instead of going back into survival.

Investment: $555 (Click here)

Whether you simply watch the replay or decide to work with me, I hope you give yourself the gift of slowing down.

Your body has been carrying a lot.

It deserves a chance to exhale.

Much love,

Essence

Join me live today at 12:30 PM EST for a gentle Nervous System Seduction practice.

A soft, guided experience to help your body feel safe enough to let go.

Come as you are.

Stretchy clothes are best.

Yoga mat, couch, or chair.

Join here

All are welcome.

I’ll send out the replay later.

See you soon.

Much love,

Essence

We talked about something I think about all the time.

How our bodies carry so much more than we realize.

Every stressful conversation.

Every time you swallowed what you really wanted to say.

Every moment of shame, grief, disappointment, resentment...

It all adds up.

And after a while you don’t just feel stressed.

You feel heavy.

Like you’re carrying something you can’t quite put into words.

During the class I guided everyone through a simple movement practice to help their body begin letting some of that weight go.

Then we slowed everything down with breath and gentle movement.

By the end you could almost feel everyone’s shoulders drop.

It was such a beautiful reminder that your body already knows how to let go. Sometimes it just needs a little space and permission.

If you’re watching and you find yourself thinking, I want more of this...

I’d love to invite you into one of two ways we can work together.

Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

A private 75-minute session where we gently listen to what your body has been carrying and create space for it to move.

Sometimes that’s grief.

Sometimes it’s anger.

Sometimes it’s the words you’ve never been able to say.

Current summer rate: $111

Expires 7/31

Yes, I'm in!

The Clearing

If you know your body has been carrying things for years, this five-session experience gives us the time to build a relationship with your body and help it let go layer by layer.

It includes one 75-minute Sensual Self-Expression Awakening followed by four 45-minute breathwork sessions so your body has the support to keep releasing instead of going back into survival.

Investment: $555

Whether you simply watch the replay or decide to work with me, I hope you give yourself the gift of slowing down.

Your body has been carrying a lot.

It deserves a chance to exhale.

Expires 7/31

Yes, I'm In!

Much love,

Essence

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I’ m hosting a free class tomorrow and Sunday and I want you there.

It is called Nervous System Seduction and it is actually a concept I have been playing with for myself.

Because here is the truth, when my system is dysregulated there is a part of me that does not want to do the work.

But when I make it more sensual and playful, I can get myself to do it.

So I started calling it nervous system seduction. Wooing my system back into balance. Back into calm. Back into myself.

Same practices I have always used. Just through a lens that gets my brain on board even when it is being unruly.

This is going to be perfect for you if:

• You have been bracing and holding your breath waiting for the other shoe to drop.

• Your shoulders feel heavy because you have been carrying the weight of the world.

• You have been taking care of everybody else and putting yourself on the back burner.

• Your anger has been rising up and you have been having more outbursts and then getting mad at yourself about it afterward.

Come have a moment to let go. Drop into your heart.

And woo your body back into calm.

I’ll be guiding you through my: Sensual Practice for Inner Calm

It is free. It is 30/40 minutes. And it’s soft and gentle.

You can join Saturday or Sunday, whichever works best for you.

Reply to this email with the word calm and I will send you the link.

(Link to my event calendar)

Hope to see you on my Substack live video page.

Message me for the link or click the link to my calendar to register.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

As part of my Sensual Girl Summer I’m running a special rate on

The Sensual Self Expression Awakening.

Just one session…you and me.

Breathing & moving.

Letting your body express & release what words alone sometimes can’t.

Maybe it’s finally letting go of anger.

Maybe it’s softening grief.

Maybe it’s speaking the truth that’s been stuck in your throat.

Maybe it’s simply remembering what it feels like to feel peaceful again.

If your body has been whispering, “It’s time,” I’d love to hold that space for you.

The summer rate through July 31st.

On August 1st, it returns to its regular price, if I continue offering individual sessions.

I’d love to work with you.

Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

I just got off a call with one of my clients, and she was feeling guilty because she admitted there are moments where she just doesn’t want to be in mom mode.

And I told her, “You’re human.”

There is nothing wrong with you for having those thoughts.

Honestly, I’d rather you say them out loud than keep swallowing them and carrying all that resentment around in your body.

After our session…

I kept thinking about another mother that I worked with years ago.

I don’t offer single sessions very often because I really believe deep healing happens over time.

I love walking alongside women and building that relationship.

But this women watched a YouTube video of mine, then reached out.

She told me that she believes that just one session with me would change her life.

How could I say no to that?!

Sacred Rage & Motherhood

Quickly into the session I could feel the weight of the pain she was carrying.

There was rage…lots of it so I knew we needed to stand up and stomp.

I asked her “what wants to be expressed?”

And it all came pouring out.

“I’m sick of these kids.”

“I’m so tired.”

“I wish someone would come pick them up.”

“Everybody always needs something from me.”

She paused and I said “That was grea…”

I couldn’t finish before more poured out…

“Every 5 minutes someone is calling my name.”

“Somebody’s crying. Somebody fighting.

Finally I felt called to have her lie on the floor.

The rage needed another way to move through.

I said, “Let yourself have the temper tantrum.”

So she kicked, pounded the floor and screamed.

She let her body express the truth of what she was feeling even more.

This was 20 minutes of full on rage being expressed and it was so beautiful to witness a mother having the courage to let herself come undone.

Fucking powerful.

I felt honored to be chosen to lead this rage party.

And then it stopped…

Silence.

Peace.

The kind of peace you can actually feel.

Even through a computer screen.

We just laid there and breathed together.

Then 2 months later…this

She was right, one session with me shifted a lot for her.

Let’s talk about why…

Rage, anger, resentment whether it’s with parenting, marriage, business, career…makes no difference which part of life it’s in, the truth is still the same.

You have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

You’re human and we all have “dark” emotions and thoughts.

The problem is when we hold them in and express them in unhealthy ways like unloading on the kids or hubby.

Also when we hold them in turn rancid, stale, ugly and they drain our happiness and lead to depression or just feeling numb.

That client knew that she needed to be held, witnessed and guided to release what her body was holding so she didn’t explode on the kids.

And to let go of unhelpful habits or addictions like drinking.

Those “shameful” emotions…

Aren’t bad or wrong.

They are messengers, letting you know that something isn’t okay and probably haven’t’ been for a long time.

So don’t hold them in.

Give them room to move.

Every emotion is sacred and deserves space, even rage.

An invitation

I don’t offer single sessions very often.

But this summer, I felt called to open a handful of private

Sensual Self-Expression Awakening sessions.

Just one session…you and me.

Breathing & moving.

Letting your body express & release what words alone sometimes can’t.

Maybe it’s finally letting go of anger.

Maybe it’s softening grief.

Maybe it’s speaking the truth that’s been stuck in your throat.

Maybe it’s simply remembering what it feels like to feel peaceful again.

If your body has been whispering, “It’s time,” I’d love to hold that space for you.

The summer rate is $111 through July 31st.

On August 1st, it returns to its regular price, if I continue offering individual sessions.

I’d love to work with you.

Yes, I'm in!

Much love,

Essence

P.S. If you know you’d like to explore working together beyond one session, click here to book a consult call.

I would love to talk.

For when you smile to seem okay but your heart feels heavy like a boulder.

Maybe you ran into an old acquaintance at the grocery store and when she asks how things have been going you put on a big smile and say

“Everything’s going great. The kids are good. How are you doing?”

But that’s not the truth.

You have a hard time sleeping through the night.

Sometimes you wake up anxious and you’re not even sure why.

And the kids are constantly asking if you’re okay, and once again you smile and say you’re fine.

And every time you say you’re fine when you’re not, the weight gets a little heavier. Because the truth never got a chance to move.

You’re not alone. Many women go through this.

I sometimes call this “the build-up”.

Where life and all its little and big disappointments, failures, heartaches, along with the childhood stuff we all carry energetically, builds up over time.

And now you’ve become the bag lady carrying a bag of bricks spanning all the way back to when you were six and all the kids laughed at you for stuttering.

That build-up weighs you down and feels like a boulder sitting in your chest where your heart should be.

And when you’re carrying all those bags around…

• It’s hard to be happy and play tea party with the kids.

• It’s hard to be intimate and frisky with your husband.

• It feels like a chore to put yourself out there and share your work.

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Nobody teaches you how to put the bags down.

How to feel through the failures and the heartache so it doesn’t just keep building up.

But it’s not too late.

You can still release the weight of the past today.

Start with these two things.

1. Stop saying you’re okay when you’re not. You need to acknowledge what’s going on. Every time you say you’re fine when you’re not, you add another brick to the bag.

   Find at least one person you can talk to about what you’re experiencing.

2. Start moving your body intentionally. Not just to move, but to heal. Do yoga to heal. Dance to heal. Walk to heal. Shake, box, breathe with the intention of releasing what has been building up inside.

   Yoga, breathwork, shaking, boxing, walking, dancing are all great ways to release built-up pain and hurt but the intention behind it is everything.

   

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What you’re experiencing is 1000% reversible.

It is not permanent.

I know this because I thought I would have low grade depression and anxiety forever. And I don’t.

I have helped many clients get to the other side of the build-up and find their joy again.

If we can do it, so can you.

Your kids deserve to see you with a real, big, authentic smile on your face. And when you say I’m great, you actually mean it.

You don’t have to do this alone.

I would love to be your guide and help you release the weight of the past and present so that you sleep peacefully, your kids see the joyful you, and when someone asks how you’re doing you actually tell them.

I know it can feel like this is just how you are now.

Like the heaviness has been there so long it has become part of you.

But it hasn't.

It is just what you have been carrying.

And you can put it down.

I'll help you.

As part of my Sensual Girl Summer I’m running a special rate on

The Sensual Self Expression Awakening.

It is one private online session where we intentionally use yoga, breathwork, and softness to help your body feel safe enough to express the emotions and release them so you can get your happy back.

Book your session here

Much love,
Essence

P.S. If you know you’d like to explore working together beyond one session, click here to book a consult call.

I would love to talk.

I was sitting in my car in the driveway after a shift at the club, and I just couldn’t make myself go inside.

I had just spent hours pretending I had a man at home, kids, this whole life.

A customer had asked about me, and I just made it all up. And it felt so real that when I pulled into my driveway and it was just me, this sadness came over me.

And instead of doing what I usually did, being mean to myself, tearing myself down, for the choices I’d made, for the life I had, I put my hand on my heart.

And I just said,

“It’s okay that you’re sad.”

I didn’t know what to call that moment back then.

Now I do.

That was sensuality.

Not the kind we usually think of.

Just me... slowing down long enough to be with myself with a little compassion instead of judgment.

What the World Told Us Sensuality Was

I think a lot of us got the wrong idea about what sensuality even is.

We were taught it had something to do with being attractive, wearing the right clothes, moving a certain way.

Performing to get attention.

Getting hot heavy in the bed.

And if you grew up being sexualized, feeling ashamed of your body, or learning that it wasn’t really safe to be soft, of course you’re going to have a weird relationship with the word sensuality.

I know I did.

I didn’t realize how disconnected I’d become from my own body until I started finding my way back.

My Flavor of Sensuality

When I say sensuality, this is what I mean…

I’m talking about slowing down enough to actually notice yourself.

• To feel your breath…notice where your body feels tight.

• To put your hand on your heart because you need a little comfort.

• To dance in your living room because it feels good, not because anyone’s watching.

• To really enjoy your morning coffee instead of rushing through it.

• To gently & intentionally rub lotion into your skin instead of treating your body like one more thing to check off the list.

Those little moments are sensuality to me.

It’s just being with yourself.

Being present in your body.

Being kind to yourself.

I call it “your sensual essence” because it looks a little different for every woman.

I think most of us have just forgotten what it feels like.

Why I use sensuality as a healing tool

Here’s something I’ve noticed in my own body and in the women I work with.

It’s a whole lot harder to let something go when your body is tense.

When you’re holding your breath, clenching your jaw, tightening your shoulders, trying to hold it all together, your body isn’t exactly in a place where it wants to release anything…so the pain, trauma and shame stay stuck.

But something changes when you soften.

When you take a deep breath, let your body move a little. When you put your hand on your heart and just stay there for a moment, things shift.

That’s why I use sensuality, movement, breath, and gentle touch in my work.

I’ve seen over and over again that a body that feels safe is much more willing to let go than a body that’s trying to hold everything together.

The New Way To See Sensuality

Placing your hand on your heart after a hard moment and saying it’s okay instead of pushing through.

Letting yourself cry without rushing to be okay again, staying with the feeling until it moves.

Letting your hips sway slowly to a song you love, not for anyone watching, just because it feels good.

Caressing your own arm with the kind of tenderness you would offer someone you love.

That is sensuality. Soft. Loving. Inward.

Just for you.

Reflections:

When was the last time you were genuinely soft with yourself, not performing self-care, but actually tender?

Is there a part of your body you have been ignoring, criticizing, or overriding that is asking for your attention right now?

What is one small way you could be in your sensual essence today, not for anyone else, just for you?

Happy Journaling

Feel free to reply and share your thoughts or reflections.

Much Love,

Essence

P.S.

If this resonated and you want to experience this work firsthand, I offer a single session called the Sensual Self Expression Awakening.

It is a body-based experience using breath, movement, and feminine energy to help you soften, open, and release what your body has been holding.

This is perfect for you if:

You feel disconnected from your body and want to find your way back.

You are carrying something heavy and your body feels tight and braced.

You are curious about sensuality as a healing practice but have never experienced it this way.

You just want an hour to be with yourself, fully, in a held and gentle space.

You can find the details of what to expect after the session, price, short video explanation and book through the link below.

Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

Years before I became a coach, and even knew about chakras… I was sitting in an intuitive development group when one of the psychics looked at me and said,

“You’re supposed to be speaking and teaching.”

Her eyes dropped down and looked at my throat.

She asked if I’d been abused as a child because she could feel something was blocking me from expressing myself.

I told her no.

Then she had me do one of the most embarrassing things I’ve ever done.

She had me get down on my knees in front of the whole group.

Then beat on the padded seat of a chair while making these deep grunting sounds to start moving the energy in my throat.

I was painfully shy back then, so this felt like torture.

But I did it because I was ready to heal and change my life.

I thought nothing life changing happened that day.

But about a month later, the group organizer asked me if I was ready to teach a class and although I was super nervous, I said yes.

The next week, I taught my very first manifestation class and shared how I’d manifested some money.

Looking back, I don’t think it was just my throat that needed to open.

My body and my throat were learning that it was safe to express itself.

As an introvert and highly sensitive woman, I constantly have work with the energy of my throat chakra to keep it open and balanced.

What the heck is a throat chakra?

Chakras are energy centers in the body, along the spine and they govern physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

Each one is connected to different emotions, qualities, and areas of life.

For instance many people have heard of the root chakra,

Which represents safety, stability, grounding, and security. It’s your foundation and your sense of belonging.

• The Throat Chakra: Represents communication, self-expression, authenticity, and speaking your truth.

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5 Signs Your Throat Chakra Is Blocking Your Purpose

1. You know exactly what you want to say... until you hit record.

You say it perfectly in the car. Then you press record and your mind goes blank.

2. You’re amazing at helping people privately, but the moment it’s time to be seen, you freeze.

Your wisdom flows so naturally behind the scenes.

But when it’s time to share it publicly, something in your body says, not yet.

3. You’ve been about to post for weeks.

You know what you want to say.

But every day you find another reason to wait.

4. You know exactly what you’re here to share.

But every time you get close, something in your body pulls the brakes.

5. You lose your words when someone asks what you do.

You know your work. But somehow, when it’s time to explain it, the words disappear.

If you resonated with one or more, it’s okay many women struggle with voice and self-expression.

The women I work with already know exactly what they want to say.

Their body just doesn’t feel safe expressing it yet.

How throat chakra blocks show up in everyday life…

• You struggle to say what you really think or feel.

• You avoid difficult conversations.

• You say “yes” when you want to say “no.”

• You hesitate to share your ideas in meetings.

• You avoid asking for a raise or promotion.

• You have trouble setting boundaries.

• You struggle to communicate your needs.

• You find it difficult to be vulnerable or honest.

• You feel misunderstood or disconnected

• You bottle up your feelings until they spill over.

• You avoid conflict to keep the peace.

One practice you can start using today to heal your throat chakra

»Start using your voice before you need your voice.

One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was to start intentionally using my voice when there wasn’t any pressure.

Hum while you’re making dinner.

Sing in the car.

Read a page of a book out loud.

Make sounds.

Let your throat remember what it feels like to be used without needing to perform, teach, or get it right.

The more your body begins to associate expression with safety instead of danger, the easier it becomes to let your voice come through.

Remember, just randomly singing in the car doesn’t count. You need to have the intention.

Example of intention: I’m going to take 5-6 minutes and sing 2 Mary J. Blige songs to help my throat feel safe expressing.

A question to sit with:

If your body felt completely safe, what would you finally say, do or express?

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

Imagine what it would feel like if speaking up didn’t feel so heavy.

If your body wasn’t constantly hitting the brakes every time you wanted to express yourself.

That’s exactly what we’ll begin exploring together inside The Sensual Self-Expression Awakening.

We'll use movement, breath, and gentle somatic practices to help your body release what's been keeping you quiet so it feels safer to…

speak up,

express yourself,

and share what's been on your heart.

BTW, when I say sensuality, I’m not talking about being sexy.

I’m talking about coming back into relationship with your body.

Gently touching your shoulders instead of criticizing them.

Rolling your hips instead of holding tension there.

Letting your body soften after years of surviving.

Dropping into your sensual feminine creates safety and openness in the body. When the body stops clenching it’s easier to release emotional blocks.

Which makes it easier for you to share your gifts, set boundaries or go after what you want.

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For a long time, I thought healing meant understanding myself better.

If I could just figure out why I felt the way I did...

Read one more book...

Listen to one more podcast...

Then everything would finally click.

And don’t get me wrong, understanding ourselves matters.

Insight is powerful but I’ve noticed something.

I’ve guided women who could tell me exactly why they people-please.

Exactly why they struggle to speak up.

Exactly why they’re still hung up on their ex.

They understood it all.

And yet... when it came time to have the conversation, post the video, ask for what they needed, let go of the ex, or set the boundary...

Their body still said, No.

That’s because understanding something isn’t always the same as moving through it.

Sometimes your mind is ready long before your body is.

Sometimes your body is still holding the fear, grief or shame.

Or the words you never got to say. Or the closure that never came.

And no amount of thinking can release something your body is still carrying.

I’ve experienced this in my own life, too.

Understanding my abandonment wounds helped me make sense of my past.

But it was moving the anger, the grief, and the hurt through my body that finally helped me stop carrying it.

This happens all the time with clients too.

And I want your body to experience this shift too.

So I’m inviting you to join me for the Sensual Self-Expression Awakening.

It’s a private one-on-one session where we use embodiment practices and gentle coaching to help your body release what it’s been holding, so you can stop carrying it alone.

There will be…

Deep breaths

Slow movement

Possibly tears you didn’t know needed to be released

Your heart feeling safe to open and let go

Your voice finally feeling safe enough to speak

Just me and you in a feminine healing session, 75 min of giving your body space to release.

That’s all it takes for something to begin shifting.

If there’s something that’s been weighing on you, something you know you’re ready to move through, I would love to hold that space for you.

With love,

Essence

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P.S. Feel free to reply if you have any questions.

Picture this.

A woman hasn’t hugged her husband in two months.

Ever since she found out he’d lied, she’s been giving him the cold shoulder. They’ve barely spoken.

If she had to put a number on it, she’d say her anger is sitting at about a 74%.

Some days, when she looks at him, it spikes to 86%.

The Analysis

She could spend months talking about what happened.

Replaying the conversation.

Analyzing why he did it.

Trying to understand why it hurt so much.

The Shift

Now imagine something different.

Imagine she’s gently guided into her body instead.

She breathes.

She moves.

She stomps.

She lets the anger have somewhere to go instead of living inside her body.

Then later that day, she hugs her husband for the first time in months.

A few days later, she sits down and lets him explain.

You see, her mind had been trying to resolve the hurt.

Her body finally released enough of it to make room for something new.

I’ve seen these kind shifts over and over in my work helping women process and release emotional blocks.

Processing vs Replaying

I think about this a lot, how much of what we call “processing” is actually just replaying.

Going over the same conversation, the same hurt, the same version of events, again and again in our heads, mistaking the repetition for progress.

People can actually circle and recycle the same thoughts and inner conversations for months or years and still feel angry, and disconnected from themselves or their relationships.

And in one or a few somatic sessions focused on allowing the body to release have a massive shift.

We’re taught that understanding a feeling is the same thing as releasing it.

It isn’t.

You can understand exactly why you’re angry and still be completely stuck in it.

Because release doesn't happen in your mind. It happens in your body.

Reflection questions:

Where are you trying to think your way through something your body is actually ready to release?

What would happen if you moved it instead of replaying it?

Happy journaling!

Much love,
Essence

P.S.

If your body is ready to release anger, sadness, heartbreak or the knot in your throat stopping you from speaking or sharing gifts, I’d like to invite to book a session with me.

The Sensual Self-Expression Awakening

This is a private one-on-one session where I’ll gently guide you through breathwork, sensual movement, energy clearing, and coaching so your body can release what it’s been carrying.

Sometimes the biggest shift isn’t learning something new.
It’s finally giving your body a chance to let go.

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I’ve been joking that I’m in my sensual girl summer.

I’ve been dancing around my house.

Moving slower.

Spending more time in my body.

Even dancing naked in front of the mirror.

And the more I lean into this version of myself, the more alive I feel.

It also made me realize something.

This is the part of my work I’ve kept the quietest.

There was still a little shame there.

It doesn’t look like traditional yoga.

I don’t look like a traditional yoga teacher.

Hell, I don’t match what ego says a sensual yoga teacher looks like…think tall and exotic :/

But what I do know is that it’s powerful and I’ve gotta share it.

It’s softer.

Slower.

Less talking.

Gentle movement & presence.

It’s some of the deepest healing work I know.

I had one client stack her bed pillows and start beating them.

Ten seconds in, she just burst into tears over an argument she’d had with her sister two months earlier.

We didn’t plan that, but her body knew what she needed to release.

I took another woman through a sensual breathing practice.

When we finished, she looked at me and said, “That felt like a psychedelic experience and I got a message from my grandmother.”

That’s what I love about this work.

We may have an agenda, but we don’t try to force an outcome.

I just create a space where your body finally gets a turn, a say.

It knows what it needs, it just needs a safe space to open.

That’s why I created the Sensual Self-Expression Awakening.

It’s a private, one-on-one experience where we use breath, movement, softness, and sensuality to help you reconnect with yourself in a way that’s hard to explain until you’ve experienced it.

It’s not sexual, it’s just slow, feminine & sacred. With bits of fire, because sometimes a girl just need to punch a pillow or scream.

If you’ve been craving a softer way to heal...

A way to feel more feminine…

A way to feel more open, free and expressed…

A way that doesn’t ask you to analyze yourself one more time...

This is for you.

Beginner friendly. All bodies welcome.

Just come in feminine stretchy clothes, whatever makes you feel cute.

It’s a single session, a summer special and you can learn more and book your call below.

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If you have any questions, hit reply.

I look forward to holding space for you.

Much love,

Essence

A Facebook 10 yr old memory popped up the other day of me and my boo and our dog (rip Prince), chilling by the river.

It made me think back to the beginning and how my journey to love began.

The journey to lasting love started when a guy I had been seeing off and on for years invited me on a date to the botanical gardens and I was so excited to go, I’d never been.

Then he stood me up. No call, no text, nothing.

That was the moment something in me snapped, in a good way. I remember thinking, if I want somebody to love and respect me, I have to love and respect myself first. So here is what I did.

1. I became celibate for almost two years.
That same day, I closed the candy shop. If I wanted somebody to actually love and respect me, I had to stop entertaining guys who didn’t deserve my time. I decided to give that time to myself.

2. I stopped drinking and smoking cigarettes.
If I was serious about healing, and learning to love myself, I couldn’t keep doing things to my body that weren’t loving.

3. I spent four months healing my father wound through radical forgiveness.
I went deep into clearing and moving rage through my body. One day I pulled out a picture of my dad and jumped on it fifty times, just to move that energy out of me.

4. I sat naked in front of the mirror.
So I could learn to accept the parts of myself I was always judging. I even ate meals at the mirror. Like a self-acceptance date, just me and the mirror.

5. I scheduled healing sessions on my own calendar.
Five o’clock on a Friday, and the appointment would be something like, cry about the time your friends ignored you for a day in elementary school. I made time to actually feel that.

6. I made time to visualize being in a relationship.
Not just think about it. Really feel what that would feel like in my body. I would picture real hot and steamy scenes that felt extremely real. I would write love letters to him like he was on a trip.

7. When he came into my life, we started with a contract.
After we’d dating for a bit, I didn’t want to sleep with him without commitment, and I didn’t want to force him into commitment either. So we started our relationship on a contract. That’s a whole different story.

8. At the start of that contract, I decided how I wanted the relationship to go, and I told him.
I said “we are not going to cuss at each other. We are not going to talk down to each other. We are not going to tell each other to shut up, etc…”

Twelve years later, we still live inside that agreement. With love and respect. And I think this eighth one is the real reason we’re still together.

None of these eight things looked normal from the outside.

Jumping on a photo of my dad, eating naked in front of a mirror, scheduling a cry session like a dentist appointment.

But every single one of them was me learning how to actually be with myself, before I asked anyone else to be with me.

That’s the part nobody tells you.

The relationship doesn’t make you whole.

You becoming whole first is what makes the relationship possible.

Share this with a friend, if you know someone whose looking for love or wants to repair their relationship (that also should start with becoming whole).

I made a reel about it too, it has 105 saves :)

What are your thoughts about this journey, over the top, lol?

Reply or msg on IG if you have any questions for me.

Much love,

Essence

P.S.

If you are ready to rebuild your relationship with yourself and your body to become healed and whole, reply to this email and we’ll schedule a time to talk.

And that was the story of my life until I learned what I’m about to share with you.

I knew that if I wanted to attract love and respect I needed to learn how to love and respect myself first.

I was doing my best but I was still struggling with self-love because my acne was out of control. I felt like I couldn’t love myself fully until it was cleared up.

Then in my Radical Forgiveness training, I learned that love is unconditional acceptance.

People define it in different ways but this one always stuck with me.

I remember it was my first cat that really helped me understand this definition.

My boyfriend had just bought me this beautiful leather case for my Surface. I had just started a new job and felt very professional.

Then one morning, I woke up to my cat trying to wake me up to feed him… by clawing the leather case and leaving scratch marks all over it.

I was so upset.

But 10 seconds later, when I looked at his face, all I could do was pick him up and rub noses with him.

That is unconditional acceptance.

I didn’t think, “You’re a bad cat.”

I thought, “You’re a cat. This is what cats do.”

I accepted him and all that comes with being a cat.

And that’s what self-love has become for me.

Self-love is unconditional acceptance of myself.

I love and accept myself even though my past isn’t perfect.

I love and accept myself even though I’ve made mistakes.

I love and accept myself even though my belly hangs over my pants.

I love and accept myself even though I have dark circles under my eyes.

Now, that doesn’t mean there isn’t work to be done or things I may want to change.

But the question becomes:

How can I take this perceived flaw and still unconditionally accept myself?

And for the things I do want to change, can I change them from a place of:

“I accept where I am, and I want something different.”

Instead of:

“I hate myself, and I need to change.”

Because there’s a big difference.

One is love.

The other is war.

And I’ve found that lasting change happens much more quickly when we stop going to war with ourselves.

With love,

Essence

Not quite unhappy at her job, but not growing there either.

She kept saying things like, “I don’t know how to get myself out of it” and “I feel like I’m dwelling more than I’m doing.”

And as she talked, the thing that kept surfacing wasn’t about her relationship or her job at all.

It was that she spent years giving everything she had to everyone around her.

Her relationship. Her kid. Her work.

And somewhere in there, she stopped giving anything to herself.

She said it herself:

“I cater to the relationship more than my own needs, and then maybe I come across needy if I’m not getting the same in return.”

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That sentence has stayed with me because I think a lot of women have been there.

Here’s what I told her.

Even if he gave you everything back. Even if he matched your effort exactly. It still wouldn’t be enough.

Because he was never the source.

You are the only one who can fill you up.

That’s not a nice quote for Instagram.

It’s the actual mechanics of what happens when you feel that need, that low grade resentment when someone doesn’t respond the way you hoped they would.

Your body isn’t asking them to fill you up. It’s asking you to notice that you’ve been running on empty.

And yes you can ask for help but most women take that extra time to do something else instead of replenishing.

This shows up outside relationships too

I want you to think about how this same pattern plays out when it’s time to show up for your purpose.

To post the thing. To say the thing. To finally let people see you, the real you.

So many women I work with pour everything into everyone but themselves, and then wonder why their body freezes the second it’s their turn to take up space.

Why the podcast never gets recorded after three weeks of researching microphones.

It’s the same well.

You can’t give from nothing. You can’t be visible from nothing.

Whatever you’ve been pouring into your relationship, your job, your kids, it’s the same reserve your voice, your message, and your calling need too.

And when that well is dry, your body knows before your mind does.

It pulls back.

It hesitates.

It researches instead of taking action.

Your job isn’t to get them to fill you

With my client, the shift wasn’t in the relationship. It was in her.

It’s your job to heal what’s asking to be healed.

To give your body and soul what it needs.

It’s your job to give yourself the acknowledgment you’re waiting on someone else to give you.

You in control of your wholeness and fullness.

Whatever anyone else brings just adds to that. It was never supposed to fill you completely.

I know that because I’ve lived it.

I spent years overriding myself, trying to have enough energy left over for my work, my people, and my calling when I had already spent it all somewhere else.

I had to learn a completely different way to be in my body so that I could consistently show-up and take action.

If your gifts are still sitting inside you

If you’ve got a message, a story, or a calling that’s been waiting, and you keep starting and stopping, I want you to hear this:

Nothing is wrong with you.

Your body isn’t sabotaging you.

It’s protecting a well that’s been empty for a long time, and it’s not going to let you pour from it until you start filling it back up.

That’s the foundation of the Somatic Visibility Blueprint, my beta program (learn more).

It’s not another content strategy or posting schedule.

I help you create the safety to be visible.

Through breath.

Through movement.

Through softness.

Through sensuality.

Once your nervous system is relaxed enough, your body knows how to replenish itself, and safety follows.

I believe that when a woman feels safe in her body, her voice, gifts, and medicine naturally begin to come forward.

If this feels like something you’d like to explore, I’d love to talk.

I’m looking for two women to take through my beta program.

Book a free 45-minute Visibility Call and we’ll look together at where your well has gone empty and what it would take to fill it back up.

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A question to sit with

Where are you waiting for someone else, or something else, to fill you up?

And what would it look like to start filling that in yourself first?

Much love,

Essence Turner